Mar 7, 2010

Wie wil jy wees?

Ek het die voorreg om met baie gesinne te werk. By te wees as ouers met en oor hulle kinders praat. Om dan self met hierdie jongmense te gesels en te hoor hoe hulle oor hulle self dink. Een van die dinge wat my bly opval is mense se drome vir hulle kinders en hoe kinders eners begin droom.

Ons wil almal die beste vir ons kinders hê. Ons droom dat hulle eendag gelukkig sal wees, ‘n goeie werk sal hê, gelukkig getroud sal wees(met iemand van die ANDER geslag). Dat hulle SUKSESVOL sal wees.

As ons saam met ons kinders huiswerk doen is dit wat ons vir hulle herbevestig. “Jy moet jou huiswerk doen anders gaan jy nie eendag Universiteit toe kan gaan nie en gaan jy nie ‘n goeie werk kan kry nie.”

Ons bevestig dit as hulle aan sport deelneem. “KILLER INSTINCT! Geen genade!” Ons bevestig dit na hulle prestasies ontvang het. “Ek kan dit nie glo nie, dit is onregverdig. Jy moes die eerste plek gekry het! Toemaar volgende keer!” So kan ons aangaan met voorbeelde.

Wat ons eintlik kommunikeer is: Dit is belangrik watter prestasies en verwagtinge jy kry en aan voldoen in die lewe. Wie moet jy word? Die persoon wat al hierdie goed doen en dit dan GOED doen! Daarom sit ons met soveel mense wat leeg is, alhoewel hulle gereken word in die top 10% van die Wêreld bevolking. Dit waarna hulle streef is leeg.

Wat wil ek hê moet my seuns word?

  • Manne wat genade uitleef
  • Manne wat respek het vir hulle self, ander en die natuur
  • Manne wat ander mense en hulle behoeftes raaksien
  • Manne wat eerlik is
  • Manne wat nederig is
  • Manne wat lewe met vreugde en passie
  • Manne wat hulle gawes geniet
  • Manne wat vir GOD lief is!

Hierdie lys gaan nie oor iets wat hulle moet word eendag nie. Dit gaan nie oor prestasies wat hulle eendag moet bereik nie. Dit gaan oor wie hulle IS en gaan WEES. Te lank in my lewe het ek onder die wan indruk geleef dat dinge wat ek doen en bereik maak dat ek belangriker is en meer aanvaarbaar is vir God. Tog kom ek agter dit gaan vir God oor wie ek IS. God wat met my wil tyd spandeer. God wat dink dat ek spesiaal is. Jes 43:4 “Omdat jy vir My kostelik is, omdat Ek jou hoog ag en liefhet...”

Hoe verander ek dan die manier hoe ek met my kinders omgaan. Die taal wat ek gebruik as ek met hulle praat. Hoe gereeld bevestig ek dit aan hulle dat ek hulle onvoorwaardelik liefhet. Hoe gereeld doen ek simpel dinge saam met hulle net omdat.

Ek gaan vir die volgende maand probeer om al die energie wat ek gewoonlik gebruik om seker te maak dat hulle uitdraai soos die samelewing verwag te herkanaliseer. Ek gaan probeer om te fokus op die belangrike dinge, om hulle lief te hê, om die waardes wat vir God belangrik is te demonstreer. Ek gaan ook probeer om dit nie te oen in die vorm van morele lessies wat maar net weer gemik is daarop om hulle iewers iets te laat bereik nie. Ek gaan probeer om hulle al hoe meer te leer om ook te leef in die hier en nou voor God. Om nou reeds genoeg te wees. Nee daar gaan ek alweer. Om nou reeds te besef dat hulle goed genoeg IS.

Ek gaan met hulle praat oor dit wat God ons maak. Dit is egter moeilik want dit is nie soos ek grootgeword het nie. My grootste droom was nie om elke dag te leef met: liefde, vreugde, vrede, geduld, vriendelikheid, goedhartigheid, getrouheid, 23nederigheid en selfbeheersing.[1] Ek hoop as ek dit genoeg vir my kinders vertel dat dit my droom vir hulle is, en iets hiervan probeer leef dat dit ook die droom van hulle lewens sal word.


[1]Die Bybel : Nuwe Vertaling. 1998, c1983 (Ga 5:22). Cape Town, South Africa: Bybelgenootskap van Suid-Afrika.

Mar 4, 2010

Om Missionaal Kerk te wees - Eenvoudig




Hierdie is ‘n baie eenvoudige manier om te verduidelik wat dit beteken om Misionaal kerk te wees.
Eight patterns of missional faithfulness, I cannot remember where I got this,  maybe you know, I would love to know.
Pattern 1, Missional Vocation. The congregation is discovering together the missional vocation of the community. It is beginning to redefine “success” and “vitality” in terms of faithfulness to God’s calling and sending. It is seeking to discern God’s specific missional vocation (“charisms” – gifts) for the entire community and for all of its members.
Pattern 2, Biblical Formation and Discipleship. The missional church is a community in which all members are involved in learning what it means to be disciples of Jesus. The bible is normative in this church’s life. Biblical formation and discipling are essential for the congregation.
Pattern 3, Taking Risks as a Contrast Community. The missional church is learning to take risks for the sake of the gospel. It understands itself as different from the world because of its participation in the life, death and resurrection of its Lord. It is raising questions, often threatening ones, about the church’s cultural captivity, and it is grappling with the ethical and structural implications of its missional vocation. It is learning to deal with internal and external resistance.
Pattern 4, Practices That Demonstrate God’s Intent for the World. The pattern of the church’s life as community is a demonstration of what God intends for the life of the whole world. The practices of the church embody mutual care, reconciliation, loving accountability, and hospitality. A missional church is indicated by how Christians behave toward one another.
Pattern 5, Worship as Public Witness. Worship is the central act by which the community celebrates with joy and thanksgiving both God’s presence and God’s promised future. Flowing out of its worship, the community has a vital public witness.
Pattern 6, Dependence on the Holy Spirit. The missional community confesses its dependence upon the Holy Spirit, shown in particular in its practices of corporate prayer.
Pattern 7, Pointing Toward the Reign of God. The missional church understands its calling as witness to the gospel of the in-breaking reign of God, and strives to be an instrument, agent, and sign of that reign. As it makes its witness through its identity, activity, and communication, it is keenly aware of the provisional character of all that it is and does. It points towards the reign of God that God will certainly bring about, but knows that its own response is incomplete, and that its own conversion is a continuing necessity.
Pattern 8, Missional Authority. The Holy Spirit gives the missional church a community a community of persons who, in a variety of ways and with a diversity of functional roles and titles, together practice the missional authority that cultivates within the community the discernment of missional vocation and is intentional about the practices that embed that vocation in the community’s life. Source: “Treasure in Clay Jars – Patterns in Missional Faithfulness” from the Gospel and Our Culture Network (Eerdmans, 2004):

What would Jesus Do if Invited to a Gay Wedding? – John Shore

Omdat ons so besig is met Sonde is dit die ding waarop ons altyd eerste fokus. Dit is die manier hoe ons grootgemaak is. Daarom is ons eerste gedagte dat ons die Sonde moet aanspreek. As ons in die eerste plek so besig was met God se liefde, sou ons eerste gedagte sekerlik gewees het om God se liefde te verkondig. Hierdie artikel het my persoonlik weer laat dink

I've recently been invited to a couple of gay weddings. So -- what with being Christian and all -- I asked myself the famous question, "What would Jesus do?" (Which I don't too often ask myself, actually, since Jesus could, for instance, raise people from the dead and turn water into wine, whereas I can barely drag myself out of bed in the morning and/or turn water into coffee. Safe to say lots of His options are none of mine.)

Wondering what Jesus would do naturally enough led me to the New Testament. And therein I found these quotes:

"Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices -- mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law -- justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former. You blind guides! You strain out a gnat but swallow a camel." (Matthew 23:23-24); and

"Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You shut the kingdom of heaven in men's faces. You yourselves do not enter, nor will you let those enter who are trying to." (Matthew 23:13); and,

"Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when he becomes one, you make him twice as much a son of hell as you are." (Matthew 23:15); and, last but hardly least:

"Love your neighbor as yourself," [said Jesus]. "There is no commandment greater than these." (Mark 12:31)

When I next went looking for anywhere in the Bible where Jesus says anything -- and I mean anything -- about homosexuality, I learned that Jesus spent about as much time talking about gays and/or lesbians as I spend talking about button collecting and/or sea horses: none. Of course, it's entirely possible that Jesus did say crucial things about homosexuality, but that when he did (curse the luck!) no one around him just then happened to have handy an ostrich feather, sappy stick, or whatever it was they used for pens back then. Which would make sense, actually. If you've spent any time at all reading the New Testament, you know that Jesus' disciples weren't exactly Johnnies-on-the-spot. They were just normal, everyday guys.

Kind of the whole point! Jesus most surely did love him some everyday people.

Throughout the New Testament, the only kind of people with whom Jesus consistently took frightful exception were the very "teachers of the law and Pharisees" we see him dressing down in the passages above. One thing that often gets lost in our considerations of Jesus is the degree to which he is exactly the wrong person to piss off. And you don't have to spend a lot of time in the New Testament before you understand that the only kind of people who seem to ever truly anger him are those who put religious dogma above what he most stood for, which was God's compassionate will.

Around Jesus you can whine, lie, shift your loyalties, be late, be greedy, be too ambitious, be stupid, be a coward, be a hypochondriac, constantly complain, fall asleep at every wrong moment -- you can do nothing right, and it won't in the slightest way seem to offend him. But you put dogma ahead of empathy? You transmogrify God's law into a justification for denying God's grace?

Then ... yikes, man. Then you've got yourself a problem no one wants.

 

I'm not exactly sure how we came to so often consider Jesus-formerly-known-as-The-Carpenter as a kind of a soft, dreamy, namby-pamby sort. (Not that there's anything wrong with that!) But it's hard to believe it was from the accounts of Jesus we have in the Gospels. That's just not the guy on those pages.

Jesus is scary when he's riled. And the only people who rile him are those who, in His name,set themselves up as sanctimonious judgers of others.

I think I better go to the weddings of my gay friends. I'm almost scared not to. In some of his parables Jesus wasn't exactly fortune-cookie clear, but he didn't even almost waffle about his "Love your neighbor as yourself." He very explicitly declared that the "first and greatest commandment."

If there's any wiggle room there, I just don't see it.

So I'll attend my gay friends' weddings, and I'll do so in the exact same spirit I'd expect them to
attend a similar function of mine. And if it happens that in the course of either of their weddings or receptions I find myself wondering if I'm doing the right thing, I'll be sure to remember the first miracle of Jesus' recorded in the Bible. It's when he turned water into wine. At a wedding.

Feb 6, 2010

MMC 2010

wild_hogs copy Hallo julle,

Ons is opgewonde om te se dat ons vanaand ons eerste beplannings vergadering gehad het vir MMC2010 (http://www.mmc2010.com/) Op hierdie stadium is daar ten minste twee opsies met ’n moontlike derde.

  1. Manne met bikes: Ons vetrek Woensdag 14 April die oggend vroeg by die kerk met die motorfietse en die eerste dag gaan ons ongeveer 680km ry na Graaff-Reinet. Daar gaan ons heel moontlik oorslaap in ’n nasionale park se kampterrein. Ons is nog oop vir oortuiging om die eerste aand in ander fassiliteite oor te slaap. Maar ons gaan lekker kuier. Don 15 April vetrek ons vroeg oggend na Goldengate Nasionale park ongeveer 600 km. Hier gaan ons lekker kuier en sluit die ouens van die klein bussies by ons aan. Vrydag 15 April gaan ons vroeg oggend vetrek na die MMC terrein. Dit beteken dat ons op die laatste ongeveer 12:00 daar gaan aankom wat sal maak dat ons die groot verkeer gaan mis en rustig kan kuier tot die program begin. Ons gaan die naweek genoeg tyd saam kuier, saam beleef en lekker saam ontspan terwyl ons nader groei aan God. Sondag as die program eindig ry ons weer die korter afstand na Golden Gate waar ons almal oorslaap. Dan gaan ons saam kuier en kans kry om te dink oor alles wat die naweek gebeur het. Maandag oggend vetrek die bikers na die volgende oorslaap plek ongeveer 600km van daar. Ons slaap maandag aand oor en Dinsdag oggend ry ons die laaste ent terug huis toe. Bikers het dus nodig om Woensdag, Don, Vrydag, Maandag en Dinsdag verlof te neem.
  2. Vir die manne sonder bikes is daar die opsie van die klein bussie/bussies. Die bussie/s vetrek Don 14 April in die aand vanaf die kerk en ry reguit deur tot by Golden Gate waar hulle met die bikers saam kom. Vrydag 15 April gaan ons vroeg oggend vetrek na die MMC terrein. Dit beteken dat ons op die laatste ongeveer 12:00 daar gaan aankom wat sal maak dat ons die groot verkeer gaan mis en rustig kan kuier tot die program begin. Ons gaan die naweek genoeg tyd saam kuier, saam beleef en lekker saam ontspan terwyl ons nader groei aan God. Sondag as die program eindig ry ons weer die korter afstand na Golden Gate waar ons almal oorslaap. Dan gaan ons saam kuier en kans kry om te dink oor alles wat die naweek gebeur het. Maandag oggend vetrek die Bussie/s en ry tot by die huis. Klein Bussie ouens moet dus Don, Vrydag en Maandag verlof neem.
  3. Die volgende opsie is om saam met groter bus te ry. Vetrek Don Aand en ry regdeur tot Vrydag aand. Sluit aan by die res. Sondag na die tyd reg hulle regdeur tot by huis. Dit gaan BAIE uitputtend wees.

Kostes vir die kampterrein is R150 per persoon vir die naweek. Ons sal binnekort die pryse vir bussies uitwerk en oorslaap.  Kos is op die kampterrein beskikbaar. Bikers sal eie petrol voorsien en is verantwoordelik vir oorslaap kostes.

Ons sal julle op hoogte hou van sake soos die pryse en die inligting duideliker word.

Indien jy belangstel/oorweeg om saam te gaan stuur e-pos vir my sodat ons jou naam op die moontlike lys kan sit.  Gerrie van Niekerk gaan vir ons verantwoordelikheid neem vir die bus/sie/sies. Terwyl Leonard Oosthuisen en Neel Britz verantwoordelikheid gaan neem vir die Bike groep.

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Tying the Clouds Together Rob Bell's metaphors and references make his listeners stretch, but his wisdom for preachers is down to earth. A Leadership interview with Rob Bell | posted 2/01/2010

He once planted a church by teaching through Leviticus. He can use a rabbit carved from a bar of soap to illustrate the nature of suffering. Google his name and the term "Sex God" will appear among the top entries.

Rob Bell is the most interesting preacher in the world.

Bell is the founding pastor of Mars Hill Bible Church in Grand Rapids, Michigan, but his reputation as an innovative communicator came largely through his video teaching series, NOOMA. Since launching Mars Hill in 1999, Bell's ministry has expanded into books, DVDs, and live tours, but he is still committed to shepherding his community at Mars Hill through preaching.

Leadership managing editor Skye Jethani sat down with Bell to discuss his approach to communicating, the state of preaching in the church, and the risks the pulpit presents to a pastor's soul.

Your sermons are known for pulling from unexpected sources—everything from art history to quantum physics. Why?

When Jacob woke up after his vision of angels ascending and descending on the ladder, he declared, "Surely God was in this place and I did not know it." And Jesus says, "My Father is always at work even to this very day." Jesus lives with an awareness, an assumption that God is here and he's at work. Dallas Willard calls this "the God-bathed world." This has deeply shaped me.

My assumption is that God can be found in all of the interesting things buzzing around us all the time. So we can take something from here and something from there and bring them together. A friend of mine calls it "tying the clouds together."

What's an example?

In high-end quantum physics they believe matter isn't stable. The atoms in a chair are connected in a pattern of relationships. And the Bible begins with a triune God—a relationship of loving, giving, creative energy. Ah ha, there's something there.

Drops Like Stars began when I realized that basic art theory has all of these connections with suffering. And so it generally starts with some odd moment of connection. And then from there it's just the hard work of hunting things down, digging things up, becoming aware of all that's going on around us all the time. I have journals filled with fragments, and over time they grow.

How is that different from how you were originally trained to preach?

A lot of pastors were trained to read the verse and then read the commentaries. But after a while the two are just talking to each other. One's focus can actually become smaller and smaller until everything is funneled into the particular text. The movement then becomes in rather than out. So it's Tuesday afternoon and a pastor is sitting in the office reading James 2 and four or five commentaries hoping to find that little nugget. When all the while there's a huge world of insight and implication and ideas out there.

Rather than shrinking our vision, the text should become a pair of eyes with which we are able to see even more. There's a great big world out there with quantum physics, and architecture, and economic theory, and the thread count of clothing, and the fact that refrigerators in Europe are smaller—all of these seemingly random events and occurrences and happenings are all connected and help us see how this really is God's world.

That covers content, but what about the sermon structure?

There's a whole world of screenwriting wisdom that we can tap into as preachers. There are storytelling insights about arc, tension, narrative, perspective, point of view—these things aren't taught in most seminaries, but they're essential to understanding how stories work, which means they're incredibly helpful in understanding the Bible.

Imagine a pastor on Thursday staring at this obscure passage in the life of David trying to figure out where the sermon is. One playwright says, "When in doubt, just have a different character give the line." And suddenly it clicks—do the sermon from the perspective of Uriah. Boom! Just one little adjustment and all of a sudden the whole thing works. My experience has been that the modern preaching, teaching, training system doesn't tap people into all this. The imagination involved in the art of the sermon can end up being stifled.

There's a lot of emphasis today on practical preaching, helping people address their felt-needs, and giving direct application. Is that foremost in your mind when you prepare a message?

When I prepare to teach a text there are a few questions I always ask. First, "What's the thing behind the thing?" and "What's the truth behind the truth?" So if we're talking about tithing, we're really talking about generosity and participation. And if we're talking about generosity and participation, then we're really talking about whether you view the world as a scarcity or as a world governed by a Trinitarian God. Is the universe at its core a sliced-up pie where you grab your slice and then protect and defend it? Or do you believe that at the core there is an endlessly self-giving, loving community of God we are invited to step into?

So you can talk about tithing—giving your 10 percent. Or you can wrestle with a scarcity versus a Trinitarian view of the universe with tithing perhaps being an implication at the end of the message.

So you're trying to help people see a larger view of reality, through the lens of the gospel, rather than just giving them practical application.

Yes, exactly. I call it the truth behind the truth; the mystery behind the mystery; reality behind the reality. If you say we're going to do a series on marriage for the next five weeks, there's a chance that people who's aren't married, who are single, or who are divorced are going to think, Well, I guess I don't have to show up for five weeks.

Another way to approach the subject is to see marriage as one of the applications of the truth behind the truth. The truth behind the truth would lead you to preach one week on being honest, the next on apologizing, and the next on serving others. Those truths apply to everyone. And then each week you might include a point on how it applies to marriage.

Does our inability to find the truth behind the truth explain why we ignore large sections of the Bible in our preaching? We just don't see much practical how-to in Obadiah?

It's interesting you bring this up because when our church started, I spent the first year and a half preaching through Leviticus verse by verse. But now it's a part of our church's DNA to assume that every text has something for us—even ones that make no sense the first time you read them.

"I always assume that there is way more going on in the text than we see on the first reading."—Rob Bell

It may be my own warped sense of humor, but it was always the odd places in the Bible that I found most compelling. It's God's inspired Word, and it's all useful. But to really believe that—that's when things get interesting. I'd rather trust God, jump into those texts, and discover what God has for us.

I really like the idea of throwing yourself at its mercy. I'm just assuming there will be things here. Last year we did Philippians verse by verse. It took the whole year. I always begin with the assumption that there is way more going on in the text than we see on the first reading.

With more familiar texts, like Philippians, you have a different challenge. How do you bring forward new insights without deteriorating into novelty?

We use phrases like "historic orthodox Christian faith" a lot, and we ask how Christians before us have understood the text. What did the church fathers say about this? For example, we did Lamentations for Lent. For thousands of years Christians have taken the season leading up to Resurrection Sunday for reflection.

We frame many things like that. Here are ways people have thought about this, understood this, expressed this over the years.

So you're not just trying to be different or innovative, you're trying to be rooted?

Right. We're interested in the way of Jesus and being true to the way of Jesus. If what we dig up is rattling or provocative or surprising, great, but setting out to be shocking or controversial, that's not a goal God honors.

What else have you found unhelpful when preaching?

Focusing too much on something in the text that is an issue of hairsplitting debate among theologians. You are assuming that people care as much about the debate as you do. Somebody may be sitting there thinking, "Dude, I'm a plumber. I didn't know that was a debate, and I didn't know that it needed to be resolved. I'm just trying to figure out life with God and you spent sixteen minutes letting me know that you understood the origins of this particular Greek word." Some things just aren't helpful.

Why do we get sucked into those unhelpful debates?

In some sense we are justifying our existence. We want to appear smart and authoritative. We want to display what we know and prove that we deserve to be up here on the stage rather than humbly receiving the role as a gift.

I have definitely been guilty of trying to show people how much I know about a verse, and that's different than allowing them to see how the truth of it has impacted my life and can transform theirs. When we put language on our experience with a text, then it becomes life-giving preaching.

So for legitimacy as leaders we rely on our intelligence rather than our intimacy with Christ.

"Church is actually about caring for one another, speaking the truth with one another in love."—Rob Bell

Right. It's about walking with God. As a pastor it is easy

to fall into a pattern of life that is isolating, and in a weird way "Church, Inc." becomes your sphere of life. Before you know it, as pastor you're out of touch with what other people are really struggling with.

How has your role at Mars Hill changed?

A few years ago I felt like I was on a treadmill and the dial just kept getting turned up faster and faster. Three services, elder meetings, staff meetings, weddings, traveling, writing. And then some very wise elders realized it wasn't healthy. They said, "Okay, here's the deal. You're a part of Mars Hill, and you'll always be a part of it. But we are going to arrange things so that it doesn't kill you and it doesn't kill us."

It's been a long, long process, but over the past year it's been working really well. There aren't any models for this kind of thing, so it took a lot of discussion, sweat, blood, and prayer. But it's working. I preach a little less than half the Sundays at our church, and then I write and tour and make films and the leaders of our church invite me in to issues and meetings only when it's proper and makes sense.

 

How has sitting in the seats and watching others teach regularly impacted you as a preacher? Has your perspective shifted?

I've realized how much of my energy and headspace in the past was used trying to get people to do things. I would get all worked up: Why can't we care more about the earth, the poor, the needy, literacy, people who are suicidal? But sitting and listening to other teachers has been such a gift. They've shown me new things. And I've realized how easy it is to make people feel guilty, to tell them they should do something. But through these other teachers, I wasn't being told what I was supposed to be doing. I was being invited to consider what might be true and then act out of that. It's been so freeing. A real gift.

Your NOOMA video series has been popular. What do you think about the increasing number of preachers and churches using video technology to expand their reach?

It's powerful but there's also a dark side. Video is not church. You put images and music on a screen, and people will listen. But it's also dangerous. You're playing with fire. I think video technology deserves to be scrutinized heavily.

Go a little deeper. What makes video dangerous?

I don't think we know yet what the long-term impact will be on disciple-making. In 10 years we may discover what particular kind of Christ follower is formed by video preaching. I see warning lights on my dashboard. It's unclear what video may do to the ways we conceive of life together.

In the New Testament, there are 43 "one another" passages, and during a Sunday morning service you might be able to practice three or four of them. And as the service gets large, you can probably do fewer. A massive group setting is also dangerous. You can come, sit, listen, and go home and think, I've been to church, even if you haven't practiced any "one anothers." And with video that only gets more intense. I'm not sure that's the direction we want to be heading.

We want to be calling people to deep bonds of solidarity with one another. We may gather in a massive group, but from the stage I often say, "This is just a church service. Church is actually about caring for one another, and serving one another, and speaking truth to one another in love. Don't get the two confused."

The evidence suggests that video can have a fast and broad impact. So what's the alternative?

There is something more powerful than simply beaming yourself into other locations, and that is raising up disciples. Over time that will go farther and faster, but right now it will be more work and slower. With technology today it's easy to spend all of your energies reproducing your own voice, but there is a longer view that says, what if instead of beaming video to those ten locations, we train ten people who can go there and lead? That's a very basic question that should be in the mix somewhere.

Is developing other leaders part of your calling now?

That's the reason we recently did "The Poets, Prophets, and Preachers" seminar, and it's why I've got seminary students I meet with regularly. Meeting with them also changes my thinking because they ask great questions. There's a reason Jesus sends his disciples out in pairs—everyone learns.

What do you teach these students about the spiritual side of preaching?

First, the public nature of preaching exposes you to a wide spectrum of feedback—from the really good compliments to really venomous criticism. Both can be dangerous because they lead to either pride or pain. We need to work at becoming the kind of person who is so deeply grounded in who we are, the work we are called to do, and the words we are called to speak, that the ambient hype that surrounds the preaching event doesn't get the best of us.

 

It's important to create a circle of trusting, loving people around you who will tell you the truth no matter what. They can help you think rightly about the criticism and keep you balanced. Preaching isn't just about the sermon, it's about becoming the kind of person who can actually handle the role. It's like a Ferrari. If you don't know how to drive the thing, you're going to crash into a tree.

Based on your metaphor, I imagine you've hit some bumps on the road.

Oh, for sure. Preaching will inevitably reveal all sorts of stuff residing in your soul. The stage is like a magnet, and any little shards of insecurity, pride, fear, or greed in you will eventually be pulled to the surface. So you have to go down a journey toward becoming a particular kind of person or it will consume you.

What does that journey involve?

If you're going to preach long term and do it with more hope, more joy, more passion, and more wisdom, then you've got to be willing to dig down into your own soul and psyche and history. How do you seek approval? What messages did your parents send you? What voices do you hear on your shoulders?

The other part is sustainability. That's an important word for me. Some pastors think about how to survive the next five years. The better question to ask is, how are we going to thrive? How do we construct a rhythm and pace of life that ensures five years from now we'll have more passion, more energy, and we will be filled with new and fresh ideas about life in God's world?

Go into any church office and ask the leaders, "Is this sustainable? Are you more passionate, more expectant, more rested and ready to go than you were a year ago, or is this thing gradually killing you?"

Just this week I asked a seminary student, "What day of the week do you not answer email? When do you take a Sabbath to remind yourself that you're not a machine, you're a human?" And he said, "I don't know if I can do that right now." I was like, "Well, if you can't do it now in seminary, what happens when you have real responsibility?"

How do you balance the church's expectations and what's actually sustainable?

There is a thick church culture that consumes pastors and spits them out. But the pastors also allow themselves to be consumed. So it goes both ways. Both sides need to reevaluate things. The first people a pastor must have this discussion with is his or her family. If you're married, start with a spouse. Then have this discussion with the church's leadership. Start with the people you report to, and assume that these people have "hired" you to give your very best. Explore together how your life can be set up in such a way that you can give your very best in these tasks.

One of my problems was that I didn't understand how to properly bring the leaders of our church into this exploration process. But as we learned how to do it, everything changed.

I don't know any elder in the church who wants the pastor to be burned out. No one wants crappy sermons. No one wants you dragging yourself to meetings with no ideas. So, that's where to start. Tell the leaders, "You have brought me here to serve you well. Let's figure out how I can give to my family first and then give my best to the church.

Tying the Clouds Together | LeadershipJournal.net

Tying the Clouds Together | LeadershipJournal.net

Jan 16, 2010

Geestelike Leierskap

Geestelike leierskap beteken vir Helderberg Gemeente om as dienende leiers aanspreeklikheid vir sekere
verantwoordelikhede te neem met die woorde van ons Here Jesus Christus in Matt 20:25-28 as riglyn: “Julle
weet dat dit by die nasies so is dat die regeerders oor hulle baasspeel, en dat die groot manne die mag oor hulle
misbruik. 26Maar by julle moet dit nie so wees nie. Elkeen wat in julle kring groot wil word, moet julle dienaars wees; 27en elkeen wat onder julle die eerste wil wees, moet julle slaaf wees. 28So is dit ook met die Seun van die mens: Hy het nie gekom om gedien te word nie maar om te dien en sy lewe te gee as losprys vir baie mense.”
Met geestelike leierskap verstaan ons ook dat die alle geestelike leiers ook die rol van ’n geestelike begeleier
(spiritual director) het. Belangrike uitgangspunte van geestelike begeiding is:
• God is aktief werksaam in die wêreld. Hy is altyd besig om iets te doen. Wat Hy aan die doen is, is die
deurslaggewende ding wat aan die gebeur is.
• Die eerste grondhouding van geestelike begeleiers is heilige respek. Ons is op heilige grond en moet dit
nie vir ’n oomblik vergeet nie; die gemeente waaroor ons praat is die terrein van God se werksaamheid.
Daarom moet ons ook oop wees vir die onverwagte en onbeplande.
• Die tweede grondhouding van ’n geestelike begeleier is gehoorsaamheid. Ons moet altyd bereid wees
om ons eie planne op te skort indien God elders lei. Dit geld nog meer vir ons as kerkraad, omdat ons
tegelykertyd geestelike begeleier en deel van die gemeente is.
• Geestelike begeleiers probeer mense lei om groter belangstelling te ontwikkel in God as in hulself.
• Ons is nie uitgelewer aan raaiwerk om raak te sien wat God aan die doen is nie. Daar is wysheid wat
oor die eeue heen versamel is wat ons hiermee help. Die Bybel is vir ons hierin van onskatbare waarde.
• Die allerdaagse, die ‘onbelangrike’ en die klein dingetjies verdien net soveel aandag as die
uitsonderlike, die ‘belangrike’ en die opspraakwekkende.
• Elke mens/gemeente is uniek. ’n Mens kan nie klaargemaakte antwoorde van elders klakkeloos op
ander mense/gemeentes afdwing nie. Wat vir een persoon/gemeente ’n goeie ding is, mag dalk net vir
’n ander persoon/gemeente die slegste denkbare ding wees.
• ’n Geloofsbegeleier is ’n byspeler in die drama, hoewel sy/hy ’n belangrike rol speel. Die
persoon/gemeente self en God is die hoofspelers. Die persoon/gemeente is nie die geestelike begeleier
se ‘projek’ en prestasie nie, maar God se eiendom, waarmee Hy ’n intens persoonlike pad loop.
• Een van die groot take van geestelike begeleiers is om dinge name te gee. Geloofsbegeleiers kyk dieper
as die oppervlakte van dinge wat gebeur het en sit hulle vinger op die diepste motief waarmee iets
gedoen word, die werklike bron van die emosies wat opgewel het, die diepste aard van die daad wat
gedoen is. Deur dinge hulle regte name te gee, stroop geestelike begeleiers mense/gemeentes van die
rookskerms, rasionalisasies, selfmisleiding, verskonings en ander meganismes waarmee hulle dit
moontlik maak om in ’n ander rigting te volhard as die waarop God hulle wil neem.
• Geestelike begeleiers help mense/gemeentes om hulle stories op verrassende maniere anders te vertel.
Hulle help mense om God se bepalende plek in hulle stories raak te sien en hulle stories as evangeliestories
te verstaan.