Sep 2, 2010

My whacked out ideas about Church? As first published on http://paul-barnard.blogspot.com/2010/09/my-whacked-out-ideas-about-church.html

Where did I get my wacked out ideas about Church? About how ministry is suppose to work, about what is important? This week I was amazed at the idea of church I grew up with. No more than, that I was taught in my years in the Church and in seminary.

What happened? I had the privilege to spend this weak with 9 individuals from different parts of the world. Two of us from South Africa(Devon is from Soweto), one from Egypt, one from Ethiopia, one from Nigeria, one from Tanzania. Two from the USA, one from Thailand and one form Germany. What a challenging group? Each one of us from a different denomination and cultural background. But most of all what a amazing spiritual experience! We came together at Mabalingwe, a Game Reserve in the Limpopo to talk and think about the relevancy of church and what is happening in the world. What a glorious experience!
To the horror of the guys from Africa, Germany and Thailand we started talking about everything happening at our churches. One cannot help but to boast a little bit about everything happening at our church even if this boasting is neatly cloaked in holiness. To our disdain they reacted in horror and not in the awe we expected. Instead of praising us they have asked the following questions which I would like to cover the next few weeks.
1. How many of your congregation is really active? – My whacked out idea of congregation!
1.1 What is your understanding of active members?
1.2 Where is the focus of your congregation?
1.3 How do we help our people to be “not relevant?”
1.4 What can we do to make a difference?
2. How do we demonstrate our faith in the community? – My whacked out idea of ministry!
2.1 What do we call ministry?
2.2 How do we as leaders demonstrate this ministry?
2.3 How do we help our people to be “not relevant?”
2.4 What can we do to make a difference?
3. How do we worship? – My whacked out idea of worship!
3.1 What is our aim in worship?
3.2 How much of worship takes place at church?
3.3 How do we help our people to be “not relevant?”
3.4 What can we do to make a difference?
I will try to convey something of the conversations during the following weeks. Feel free to comment and partake in the discussions.

Aug 27, 2010

Romeine Reeks

Vir die wat belangstel hier is die skakels na die preke van die Romeine reeks. Jammer dat ek dit nou eers opsit ek weet daar is van julle wat lankal daarvoor vra. Julle is welkom om in gesprek met my te tree oor die preke. Jy kan die preke aflaai by http://paul-barnard.blogspot.com/2010/08/romeine-reeks.html

Die tema van die reeks is “Laat God jou verander. Wil jy?”

Rom 1:1-17 Dr. Paul J Barnard

‘n Kragtige verandering

 

Rom 3:21-31 Ds. Hannes Theron

Waarom verander?

 

Rom 5:1-11 Dr. Paul J Barnard en Ds. Hannes Theron

Vrug van verandering

 

Rom 6:1-14 Dr. Danie O’Kennedy

Dood vir die sonde, maar lewend vir God

 

Rom 7:1-25 Dr. Paul J Barnard

Mense met sonde

 

Rom 8:1-17

‘n Ander lewe deur die Gees

 

Rom 8:31-39

Niks kan my skei van Christus

 

Rom 10:5-17

Verander vir ander

 

Rom 12:1-8

Laat God julle verander

 

Rom 12:9-21

God se liefde verander ons

 

Rom 14:1-23

Maak die sirkel groter

 

Rom 15:1-13

Die evangelie is vir alle mense

Aug 20, 2010

The morning I met Jesus at the Petrol station. As first published at http://paul-barnard.blogspot.com/2010/08/morning-i-met-jesus-at-petrol-station.html

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Today I had to go to a seminar in Belville, on my way there I realised that I need gas urgently. I was on reserve and my motorcycle can only go 20km on the 1litre reserve gas. I took the off ramp to Kuilsrivier hoping to find a Petrol station. I was relieved as I pulled into the station and I was in a bit of a hurry, not wanting to be late for the seminar. The attendant helping me was a man with the name “Happy”. Trying to make small talk I commented on his name, saying Happy are you happy? He looked me straight in the eyes and I was shocked as I saw the sorrow staring back. He softly said “Nee meneer” No sir. I could not help but ask what is wrong. Tears started to whelm up in his eyes and he said even more softly “hulle het my kind doodgemaak laas maand” they killed my son last month. We were staring at one another and as the tears rolled down his face I could feel the warmth as my own tears started to roll down my cheeks. At that moment I was so aware of God’s love for this guy that I got off my motorcycle and gave him a real bear hug. The sobs seems to force themselves out of his body as he was trying to hold back. I took him by the arm and we walked to the station office. We found the owner and as I started to explain what has happened and the fact that I am a Pastor, he interrupted with relief telling me that he is a Christian and how worried he is about Happy. He asked me to talk to Happy, and said we could use his office.

Thus we ended up in the office, me and Happy with the owner serving us Coffee and biscuits. Happy told me about the pain of his loss. How his whole life was brought to a sudden stop. He also told me about his mother and her devotion to God. How she was always praying for him and his brothers. He was the only one who never gave his heart to the Lord, his older Brother who died in Taxi crash knew the Lord. His brother just younger that himself who died at the age of 24 in hospital of a sickness knew the Lord. Their youngest brother who died at the age of 12 of a sickness knew the Lord. His brother two years older than himself, his only living brother knows Christ. He told me that his son did not know Christ and then he started to sob uncontrollably. I was dumbstrucked by his story, a story of pain and suffering which is not unlike the story of many Africans. We sat there for an hour and a half as he spoke. My amazement was growing as I realised that he is building up his story to a point where he wants to give his heart to the Lord. I said nothing,(and this is very difficult for a pastor) he just kept on speaking and speaking. It was as if the pain was draining through his mouth and the best I could do was to keep my mouth shut.

Then suddenly he said “Pastoor ek moet regmaak met God” Pastor I must sort out my life with God. At that moment the Owner of the station stuck his head around the door to ask if we needed anything. I said yes he must join us for a moment. I told him that Happy wants to give his heart to the Lord, Johan the owner was very excited until I told him, that he must help Happy give his heart to the Lord. Johan said, he didn’t know how. I told him and Happy to kneel with me and then told him to lead Happy in the sinners prayer. I explained to them the sinners prayer and then Johan prayed the sinners prayer with Happy. All three of us were overwhelmed and ending up embracing one another. I also explained to Johan that he needed to take Happy under his wing and start a process of discipleship with him.

I now have a appointment with Johan and Happy once a month for a hour and a half to help them on the way ahead in their ministry at the Petrol Station. Johan insisted that I do not pay for my tank of petrol and said that each month when I visit I must make sure the tank is empty. If I help fill their tanks he would fill my bike’s tank.

As I drove off I realised that I met Jesus at the Petrol station He was waiting for me, Happy and Johan. How many times have I missed Him before because I was in just to great a hurry to to talk to people around me.

Aug 18, 2010

What do you worship? God or your personality? – as published on http://paul-barnard.blogspot.com/2010/08/what-do-you-worship-god-or-your.html

I generally do not like to generalise but sometimes you can’t help but see some patterns. Our personalities have a major effect on how we experience the world, one another an even God.
Some personalities, lean toward a rules based, black and white theology that allows them to easily decide who is right and wrong and who to fight, who is with them or against them. If you disagree with them, you are their enemy. No you are THEE enemy. But are you their enemy because you are wrong about theology, or because they have subscribed to a theology that helps them feel comfortable within the way they view the world? In other words, is this God’s fight, or their own? If they weren’t Christians, wouldn’t they just manifest their personalities in some other fight, some other black-and-white way of viewing the world? For these people rules define who they are. Control is very, VERY important. In a church service, things(Liturgy) must be done in the correct way and the Sermon must give clear and definite answers.

Aug 12, 2010

My Prison Miracle as published on http://paul-barnard.blogspot.com/2010/08/my-prison-miracle.html

While I was still studying theology I worked at the Prison Service in Pretoria during the nights to pay for my studies. I had the wonderful opportunity to work permanent nightshift from 1992-1994. The nightshift started at 22:00 and ended at 06:00 which meant that we had very little contact with the inmates. Me and one of my friends decided that we wanted to share the gospel with those around us. The problem was that the inmates was not interested in talking to the guards and especially not about religion. Then one night we realised that if we were busy talking to one another in hushed voices while standing in the hallways outside the cells, the inmates would press up against the bars to try and listen in on our conversations. We then came up with the idea to move from the one cell to the next standing outside and sharing Romans 5 with one another. We would make turns to tell the other in a hushed excited voice: “I have read the most amazing piece of scripture” Then we would take out a Bible and read Romans 5 in a hushed voice. We could see how inmates where pressing against the bars straining to hear. After finishing we would move to the next cell and start again.

Aug 6, 2010

Huweliksvoorbereidings kampe

Huweliksvoorbereiding

Die besluit om te trou is waarskynlik een van die grootste besluite wat ‘n mens neem, aangesien dit twee mense lewenslank aan mekaar verbind. Dit kan een van die wonderlikste ervarings wees of dit kan ’n nagmerrie wees.

Geen huwelik is gewaarborg nie! Ons almal leef met vrae en benoudhede. Daarom is dit belangrik om voor die tyd te gesels oor die belangrike dinge. Deesdae lees ons dat ongeveer 58% van huwelike eindig met egskeiding. Ten minste 15% van die ander is ongelukkig. Iemand het eendag gesê dat as dit so moeilik is om gelukkig getroud te wees dan kry sy die jammer wat ongelukkig getroud is! Dit is genoeg om enige persoon twee keer te laat dink. Goeie kommunikasie en verstaan van mekaar se verwagtings saam met 'n  intieme verhouding met God gee egter hoop. Die Huwelik is God se droom en maak die lewe net soveel meer besonder. Tydens die Huweliksvoorbereidings kamp wil ons saam werk om kwesbaarhede (rooi ligte) te identifiseer en bevredigend deur werk tot albei partye vrede daaroor het.

Daar is ‘n maksimum van 5 paartjies per naweek en die gesprekke vind plaas op ‘n gemaklike manier. Dit is nie net geleenthede waar julle toegespreek word nie, maar waar julle aktief deelneem aan die gesprek.

Ons gaan stilstaan by die volgende

· Die belangrikheid van “commitment”

· Hoe om julle verskille te identifiseer en te waardeer.

· Die kuns van kommunikasie

· Konflik hantering

Die belangrikheid daarvan om tyd saam te spandeer en om julle vriendskap te versorg.

· Om seker te maak die ander voel geliefd

· ‘n Goeie seksuele verhouding

· Om te gesels oor julle drome

1. Kommunikasie. Dit is belangrik dat paartjies die belangrikheid van kommunikasie sal verstaan, maar ook hoe dit deur persoonlikheid, familie geskiedenis en omstandighede beïnvloed word.

2. Commitment. Commitment gaan oor die hart van ‘n huwelik waar paartjies kies om hulle lewens so in te rig dat die ander persoon altyd eerste kom. Dit beteken ook dat daar gekyk word na wat het julle van mekaar nodig.

3. Konflik hantering. Konflik kan ‘n huwelik vernietig of dit kan ‘n huwelik sterk maak. Daar word gekyk hoe woede hanteer word, verskille gevier word, kyk na die soek van oplossings. Daar word ook gekyk na wat vergifnis werklik is.

4. Hou die Liefde lewendig. Hier gaan gekyk word wat nodig is binne julle huwelik sodat julle nader na mekaar kan groei.

5. Gedeelde waardes en lewens doel. Alhoewel die verskille gevier moet word, moet die paartjie doelgerig iewers heen op pad wees. Julle gaan genoeg tyd kry om oor die toekoms te praat tov. Kinders, diere, finansies en geloof.

6. Mediese. Danette hanteer ook die mediese geskiedenis van die paartjies en gee ook meer inligting oor voorbehoedmiddels.

Myers-Briggs Persoonlikheids toets. Voor die naweek gaan jy geleentheid he om die gratis Myers-Briggs persoonlikheid stoets te doen wat ons dan gedurende die naweek gaan hanteer.

Waar: Avondrood

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Die foto is van die voorstoep van die huis geneem.

Wanneer: 10-12 September, 1-3 Oktober en 22-24 Oktober

Kostes: R400 pp vir die naweek, ingesluit verblyf, kos en materiaal.

Bespreek gou BEPERKTE aantal plekke beskikbaar

Die Huweliksvoorbereidings kursus is ontwikkel deur Dr’s Paul en Danette Barnard. Hulle het die kursus die afgelope paar jaar in die Kaap aangebied waar dit van krag tot krag gaan.

clip_image006 Paul is voltydse Familiepredikant by Helderberg gemeente en het ook sy Doktorale studies in pastoraat voltooi by Princeton. Danette is ’n Mediese dokter en boonop nog ma van drie woelige seuns.

Vir meer inligting skakel Paul Barnard by 0823749520 of stuur e-pos aan paul@nghelder.co.za

Aug 3, 2010

Bikers Egpare Kerk Naweek 24-26 September

Hi almal, hierdie die nuutste info en planne vir die naweek waaroor ons gesels het vir die NG Helderberg Bikers Church uitstappie die naweek van 24 tot 26 September. Die skool sluit daardie Donderdag en die Vrydag is ‘n openbare vakansiedag.
Ek sal nog finale kostes vasmaak, maar dit lyk asof ons sal wegkom met verblyf vir ongeveer R450 per person, insluitende minstens een aandete (skaapbraai en wynproe in Rawsonville reeds vasgemaak en ingesluit). Ek onderhandel nog oor Swellendam se aandete (ek kyk na tradisioneel Portugees) en ontbyt. Ontbyt in Rawsonville sal selfsorg wees… maw koffie en beskuit.
Plekke sal beperk wees tot maksimum 14 mense. Ek sal besprekings neem met deposito van R250 per persoon omdat plekke beperk is en ek 50% moet vooruit betaal. Indien iemand kanselleer nadat deposito reeds betaal is, sal daardie persoon iemand in sy/haar plek moet kry voordat die deposito terugbesorg sal word.

Bevestig asb per e-mail na my met elke bespreking sodat ek kan sekermaak dat daar nog plek beskikbaar is.
Ek het reeds bevestiging van:
· Paul en Danette Barnard;
· Nico en Leonie Taljaard;
· Daar is dus nog net 10 plekke beskikbaar… moenie te lank wag nie. Bespreek vandag nog.
Day 1: Somerset West to Swellendam – 261 km
Het onderhandel tans met Swellengrebel Hotel in Swellendam vir verblyf, aandete en ontbyt. Kyk gerus op die webblad by http://www.swellengrebelhotel.co.za/
Die roete neem ons vanaf die kerk, oor Gordonsbaai, Kleinmond, Hermanus, Stanford, Napier en Bredasdorp na Swellendam. Ons sal in Hermanus by die ou hawe stop vir brunch/middagete, brandstof, bene rek ens.

Day 2: Swellendam to Rawsonville – 319km
Ek het vasgemaak met Danie se swaer in Rawsonville vir die berghuis op die wynplaas Avondrood. Ons het daar verblyf en ook ‘n skaapbraai en wynproe ingesluit in die prys. Kyk gerus na die webblad by http://www.avondrood.co.za/
Ons sal seker nie te vroeg ry nie. Ek voorsien dat ons ontbyt eet, oor Barrydale na Montagu ry en daar stop vir petrol, koffie of tee ens. Volgende ry ons agter die berge na (amper by) Touwsrivier en daarvan agter Matroosberg om na Ceres. Van daar verder na die oornagpunt by Rawsonville.

Dag 3: Rawsonville to Somerset West – 117 km
Die bikers wat nie saamgaan nie vertrek vanaf die kerk gewone tyd en kry ons by die “kerk”. Ons hou kerk by Hoërskool Gimnasium se sportgronde… op die hoofpaviljoen van die rugbyveld of dalk selfs by die taal monument… ek sal nog met die skool bevestig of ons die paviljoen kan gebruik.
Die roete neem ons oor Du Toitskloof pas, deur Paarl na Hoërskool Gimnasium se sportgronde. Ons sal seker ongeveer 9-uur die oggend daar moet wees vir die diens saam met die ander bikers.
Ons ry verder en eet brunch by Simonsig Wine Estate. Vir die wat verder wil ry is daar altyd die pad oor Franschoek, Franschoekpas, Grabouw en Sir Lawry’spas, maar ek dink die passasiers sal dalk by die huis wil kom om nog bietjie skoon te maak en rus.

Groete
Nico Taljaard
ntaljaard@ackermans.co.za
0829056230
0219001049

Jul 26, 2010

Kerke met tralies en besige Dominisse! – aanbeveel deur Solly

image Nick Stander...Die boemelaarEk hou nie van "Private Number" oproepe nie, en dit moes seker so geklink het toe ek antwoord. Die stem aan die ander Kant praat dus nie storietjies nie, maar kom dadelik tot die punt:
"Kan ek u asseblief kom sien?" "Seker ja, waaroor gaan dit?" "Ek sal maar verduidelik as ek u sien." "Wie praat nou?" "My naam is Nick Stander. Ek het u nommer gekry deur die stukkie wat u in Pretoria News geskryf het." "Nougoed, uhm, hierdie week is rof. Vrydag dalk? Sommer by Greenfields... Castle Walk?" Hy huiwer nie, en ons spreek die tyd af. Toe ek sy naam op my selfoon kalender intik, wonder ek of hy dalk versekering verkoop. As dit so is, gaan dit 'n baie kort gesprek wees. Dalk hou hy nie van dit wat ek geskryf het nie. Dan ook maar soos dit is...


Vrydag vra Rethea my oudergewoonte uit wie ek sien die dag. "Een of ander 'Nick Stander'. Weet nie wie dit is nie. Bel maar die polisie as ek nie van my laat hoor nie..." grap ek sarkasties. My gedagtes is by alles wat nog moet gebeur voor die jaar eindig, terwyl ek na die koffieplek ry. Ek klim haastig uit, en stap na die trappe. 'n Stem agter my laat my stop. "Dries Lombaard?" Ek draai om en is verbaas om die persoon voor my te sien. Netjies, maar eenvoudig aangetrek, met 'n plastieksak in sy hand. "Nick?" Ons groet mekaar, en ek stel voor dat ons koffie gaan kry binne. Ons gaan sit, en ek maak een of ander verwysing na die weer. Hy beaam dit. Ons bestel koffie - hy stem met 'n knik van die kop in om dieselfde as ek te kry nadat ek bestel het. "Eintlik wil ek net raad vra." begin hy dadelik. Hy vertel my van 'n sake konsep waar mens sjokolade en vorms koop by 'n fabriek in Johannesburg, en dan jou eie sjokolade vormpies maak wat jy verkoop. Daar is tans vorms vir sokkerballe, met die komende wereldbeker in gedagte. Hy wil dit graag doen. Maar daar is iets waarvan hy onseker is... en dis waarom hy my opgesoek het. Hy wil weet hoe hy kan weet of so iets sy 'roeping' is, en of dit bloot 'n begeerte is na sy eie doelwite... soos materialisme.
Ek sit aandagtig en luister (iets in hierdie man "intrigue" my), maar
ek voel asof ek nie die kloutjie by die oor kan bring nie.... "Nick, kan ek jou net 'n paar vrae vra. Ek is deurmekaar. Waarom, en hoe het jy by my uitgekom om spesifiek dit te vra? Ek meen, ek is mos nie 'n
besigheidsman nie. Vertel my net bietjie meer van jouself?"
Nick lyk vir 'n oomblik ongemaklik, maar kyk my dan reguit in die oë,
en antwoord: "Meneer, ek het die stukkie gelees wat u in Pretoria News geskryf het, die stukkie oor "Abilities and Responsibilities". ( Ek onthou die stukkie. Ek skryf een maal 'n week 'n kort stukkie wat dan as deel van 'n vriend se onderneming se advertensie geplaas word.)
Hy praat verder. "In daardie stukkie skryf u dat elke mens sekere
"abilities" het, maar dat dit ook beteken jy het "responsibilities". En
ander mense het daaardie selfde verantwoordelikheid om ander se vermoëns te erken." Ek knik instemmend terwyl ek terugdink aan die stukkie. Nick sluk aan sy koffie, en praat verder. "Ek het baie nagedink daaroor, en het begin wonder hoe ek sou weet wat dan my roeping werklik is, en hoe ek dit sou kon onderskei van die selfsugtige begeerte om byvoorbeeld net geld te maak."
"Het jy ander hieroor gevra... ek bedoel, jy het seker met ander mense ook gesels?" wou ek weet. "Ek het probeer, meneer, maar..." hy huiwer, kyk my in die oë. Dit voel vir my asof hy probeer peil of hy maar mag sê wat hy dink. Ek knik om hom gerus te stel. Hy gaan voort: "... meneer, die ding is, ken meneer kerke?" Sy vraag gooi my effe. "Ek dink so, Nick. Waarom?" "Meneer, kerke... of liewer, die meeste kerke, het tralies om. En ken meneer pastore en dominees?" Ek antwoord nie... wag dat hy self antwoord. "Pastore en dominees is baie besig, meneer. Hul het nie tyd vir gesels nie, veral nie as jy nie 'n lidmaat is daar by hulle plek nie." "Nou Nick, wat van jou pastoor of dominee Dan?" vra ek. "Nee meneer." Hy sluk weer sy koffie. "Meneer, kan ek maar eerlik wees?" "Asseblief Nick."
"Meneer, eintlik het ek 'n probleem gehad vir lank. Vir 18 jaar lank.
Ek was 'n alkoholis. En vir die laaste 8 jaar was ek op straat."
Skielik maak die prentjie van die man by die trappe, met die enkele
sak in sy hand, vir my sin... "Maar so maand of wat gelede het 'n ding met my gebeur. Op straat bedel ons mos maar. En ek het gebedel vir ietsie by iemand, daar by die Uniegeboue. Die man vra toe vir my of hy vir my kan bid. Christene doen dit, ons ken hulle al. Hulle wil vir jou bid eers, voor hul jou iets gee. So ons laat dit toe. Hulle bid ook almal min of meer dieselfde. Hul bid dat die Here jou siel sal red, en hulle bid dat ons van die drank verlos sal word.
Daar is al honderde kere vir my siel gebid. Ek het honderde kere sogenaamde 'oorgawes' gemaak. Bid net agter hul aan. Nooit  verstaan wat dit beteken nie, maar ek sorg net dat ek hartseer en ernstig lyk, en dan gaan hul baie opgewonde daar weg. Afgetick in hul boeke. Daar is ook al honderde kere gebid dat die drank my sal los, en ek die drank sal los. Sodra hul egter weg is, haal ons die bottels uit en drink verder..." Die kelnerin onderbreek ons vir nog koffie. Sy los ook spyskaarte op die tafel. "Wil jy iets eet, Nick?" vra ek. "Nee wat meneer, dis reg. Net koffie." Ek besef dat ek iets moet vra. "Nick, wanneer laas het jy geeet?" Hy kyk af. "So drie dae gelede, meneer." Ek is stil. My siel staan stil. My gedagtes ook.
"Kom ons eet iets", sê ek. Nick blaai versigtig deur die spyskaart.
"Ek gaan steak en chips eet. Vir jou ook?" Hy knik dadelik sy kop. "Ja baie dankie." Ons bestel, en ek vra hom om verder te vertel. "Die man bid toe vir my, maar hy bid nie soos die ander nie. Hy bid
verkeerd." "Verkeerd?" vra ek. "Ja, hy bid nie vir my siel nie. Ook nie vir my dronk lyf nie. Ek was half dronk, maar ek kon hoor hy bid anders. Hy bid dat die Here my moet genees van my depressie. Toe hy dit sê, toe kyk ek hom skeef. En toe hy klaar is, toe sê ek vir hom: "U het verkeerd gebid. Ek's nie depresief nie." Maar hy het net geglimlag en dit daar gelaat. Toe is hy daar weg. En ek het verder gaan drink." "Die volgende oggend het ek wakker geword, en nie dadelik lus gevoel vir drink nie. Maar dit gebeur soms. Eers later die oggend het ek agtergekom dat ek steeds nie lus het vir enige drank nie. Dit was vreemd. Maar ek het geweet dit sal verander as ek bewerig gaan begin raak, die middag se kant. Maar die middag, en die aand, het gekom, en die bewerigheid het nie gekom nie. Die ander het my vreemd aangekyk dat ek nie gedrink het nie. Ek het nie
geweet wat aangaan nie. Vir die eerste keer in 18 jaar het ek gaan slaap sonder dat ek die dag enige alkohol gedrink het..." "Die volgende oggend was die lus steeds weg. En vir die eerste keer in
jare was ek werklik nugter, en kon ek nugter dink. En ek het gedink, en gedink, en gedink. Oor myself, my verlede, my toekoms, oor God."
Die kos kom, en ek kan sien Nick is effe oorweldig deur die groot
T-Been in sy bord. Terwyl ons eet vertel, Nick verder: "Ek het besef dat die gebed die vorige dag werklik my genees het van alkoholisme. Ek wou nuut begin. Ek wou God dien. Ek het besef dat daar 'n
paar dinge is wat drasties sal moet verander in my lewe. Eerstens moes ek ophou bedel. En as mens nie bedel nie, lei jy honger." Hy eet heerlik tussendeur die gesels aan die steak, en ek besef net weer hoe maklik dit vir my was om dit te bestel, en hoe lanklaas ek werklik honger was. Ek het begin werk soek. Vaste werk. Werk met 'n toekoms. Maar dit bestaan skaars. Tussendeur was jy 'n kar, of sny jy iemand se gras. Maar werk is daar nie. Veral nie as mens Kleurling is nie... want ons is min hier in Pretoria, en die swartes vertrou jou nie, en die witmense ook nie. Dis toe dat ek na die Staatsbiblioteek toe is, om die koerante te begin deursoek vir werksgeleenthede... enige geleenthede. Daar het ek aan die
sjokolade-besigheid idee gekom. En daar het ek die stukkie gelees wat u geskryf het." "Nick, jy het begin om te verwys dat dit moeilik was om by kerke uit te kom?" vra ek. "Ja, meneer, ek kom nou juis by daardie deel van die verhaal. Nadat ek aan die sjokolade idee in die koerant gekom het, het ek dit begin navors. Ek het selfs Johannesburg toe geryloop en self met die vrou daar gaan gesels.
Sy het my als gewys en verduidelik. Maar ek het nie net koerant gelees in die Biblioteek nie. Ek het die Bybel gelees ook. En ek het baie vrae gehad. Baie. Soos die een oor my roeping... wat God met my sou wou maak, noudat Hy my genees het. Hoe hy my kon gebruik. Hoe ek 'n verskil kon maak aan ander, en my lewe op koers kon kry." Die kelnerin kom haal ons borde. Nick is nie klaar nie. Hy eet stadig. Ek kry 'n SMS. Dis Rethea. "Leef jy nog?" vra sy. Ek antwoord eenvoudig met 'n J simbool. "Die kerke het tralies om, meneer. Dis veral baie moeilik as mens regtig net wil raad vra. Hul gee kos, klere soms. Baie probeer help, maar so as 'outreach'. Hul wil nie gesels nie. Hul het nie tyd nie. Vir raad lyk dit my, moet jy afsprake maak, en lidmate kry nogals voorkeur. "So kom ek by een kerk daar in die stad, en ek lui die interkom by die hek. 'n Vrou antwoord. 'Kan ek asseblief met 'n pastoor of 'n counsellor praat?' vra ek haar. "'Soek jy kos?' vra sy my. "'Nee, ek vra vir 'n pastoor of 'n counsellor. Ek soek raad.' "'Soek jy berading?' "'Nee, mevrou, net raad.' "'Man, hier is niemand wat jou kan help daarmee nie!'
"Voordat ek dink wat ek sê, vra ek haar toe: 'Maar kan ek dan met
Jesus Christus praat, 'seblief?' "Vies antwoord sy: 'Man, moenie laf wees nie! Hy's nie hier nie.....' "Meneer, toe ek daar wegstap, toe besef ek, sy is reg. Hy is nie daar nie." Nick is klaar geëet. Ek is regtig aangeraak deur sy verhaal sover. Hy neem 'n slukkie van sy koeldrank. "Nick, hoekom het jy juis besluit om my te kontak, net na aanleiding van daardie kort beriggie?" Hy glimlag, en bly 'n rukkie stil.
"Saans, daar op straat, is daar 'n roetine. Ons kom bymekaar en deel
wat ons het om te eet, en wat ons drink. Hier by sewe uur raak dit stil, en draai iemand die radio harder. Dan luister ons almal nuus. En net na die nuus, luister ons na ons dominee. Stephan Joubert, van die 'ekerk', se hul altyd. Ons geniet die man se gesels oor God, want dis asof hy met ons praat. Baie keer bespreek ons dit na die tyd, so deur die gedrinkery deur, totdat die drank begin praat. Ons wonder ook oor die 'ekerk'. Toe sê iemand een aand dis nie 'n regtige kerk nie, dis 'n internet kerk." Ek is verstom, want nooit het ek gedink mense op straat luister intensioneel na die aand oordenking nie. Wys jou net my vooropgestelde idees...
"Nou, ek weet nie van hoe 'n internet kerk kan werk nie, maar toe ek
die stukkie lees, toe sien ek u naam daar staan, en en sien daar staan 'ekerk' by. En ek besef, dis ons dominee se internet kerk. En dit tref my! As dit 'n kerk sonder geboue is, is dit net dalk 'n kerk sonder tralies. En miskien het daardie ouens tyd vir luister. Dalk kan iemand daar vir my raad gee..."
:::::::::::::::::::::::::::::
Nick Stander is sederdien ons gesin se gas in ons huis. Intussen het
hy klere, 'n selfoon en 'n skootrekenaar gekry by verskeie mense aan wie ek sy storie vertel het. En ons by Ekerk het besluit om met hom 'n pad te stap om sy talente te help ontdek, en hom op te lei in iets waarmee hy werklik tot die lewe van produktiwiteit kan terugkeer. Ons sal sien waarheen dit lei... maar ons glo aan verhoudinge as die vertrekpunt vir enige hulp. Aan vriendskap. Nie aan "hit & run" uitreike nie. Die stories wat Nick saans aan tafel vertel, is ongelooflik. Anderdag sê ek vir Rethea dat die kinders meer by hom geleer het al, as wat enige Sondagskool klas ooit sou kon. En ek. Ek leer daagliks by die man. Ons het sommer vinnig werklik vriende geword. 'n Paar dae nadat hy by ons kom bly het, sê hy eendag vir my: "Dries, wat my lewe verander is nie die dinge wat
julle vir my doen of vir my gee nie. Ek waardeer dit ongelooflik baie. Maar wat my elke keer soos 'n tsoenami tref, is dat julle my van die eerste oomblik af in liefde ontvang het, en hoe jul my sonder rede vertrou het. Baie mens het my al probeer help, en ek was gewoonlik te dronk om iets met daardie hulp te maak. Maar niemand het my nog ooit vertrou nie. Julle neem my, 'n vreemdeling, van die straat af in jul huis. Dit maak nie sin nie." Toe verduidelik ek vir hom dit wat Stephan Joubert altyd na verwys as "veilige heiliges". En dat dit meestal 'n term is waaroor ons almal instemmend glimlag as hy dit noem. Maar dat dit nie werklik ons lewens prakties raak nie. Dit klink net mooi en oulik... en reg. Want ek het besef, ek en my gesin is ook 'n kerk agter tralies. En ek is ook te besig vir mense met stories en verhale. En dat hy my weer die geleentheid gegee het om die
evangelie te herontdek as die gevaarlike boodskap wat dit is. En dat die Here hom gebruik om ons gesin se lewe te verander...

Jul 20, 2010

What is happening in your story?

I have been reading “Million miles in a Thousand years” by Donald Miller and it got me thinking? In his book he tells the story how one of his earlier books was made into a movie. The book was about his life. When they started the movie script he was confronted with the question: “How many memorable stories did he have?” The type of story that people would sit and watch. If they have to make a movie about my or your life would it be a slow moving movie or would their be scenes where people would actually want to sit and watch. One of the perquisites is that it must be something worthwhile, funny, adventures or painful. A really good story has something of everything.

I have realised that really good stories seldom just happen, you have to dream, you have to go out there and make them happen. If you settle for an ordinary life you will be rewarded with a boring life. If you go for daring you would be ALIFE. What is the things holding us back? Spending to much time doing nothing, having no goals,  only taking on things that we know are in our reach. If I look back at my life it is filled with wonderful adventures. I did my special forces training, did my doctoral, lived and worked on the streets for 2 and a half years.  Got married and went through a painful divorce. Got married again and have a wonderful family. I am blessed in the ministry that I really enjoy. Got my provincial colours in rugby and pool. Did a epic tour through Africa with my three sons in the beginning of the year. Drove 3600km on bikes through South Africa. There are many things I did – what am I doing?

I dream about going to see the polar bears in the wild, about going into Africa with my camera and my family. Teaching pastors in Angola. But to live this extraordinary life I have to make some changes to what people see as normal. I have to get of my bud! Loose some weight, get fit and prioritise! This week I am going to sit with my family and dream about worthwhile stories. What is your dreams and what are you going to do about it.

For inspiration read the book by Donald Miller but choose your story otherwise you will end up wasting a good story.

Jul 8, 2010

Laat God jou verander . . . wil jy?

Onthou jy nog die animasie kleikaraktertjie, Morph, wat so uit die potloodhouer geklim het? Ek het my altyd verwonder aan die kleimannetjie wat deur “sy skepper”, Tony Hart, deur verskillende vorme aan ons bekendgestel is. Ek kon myself verwonder aan aan wat Tony Hart met die bolletjie klei kon regkry.

So staan ek ook in verwondering oor God – Hoe Hy mense verander. Dit bly vir my een van die grooste wonders om te sien hoe God mense nuut maak. God lap niks. God maak nie heel nie. God maak nuut! Die opstellers van die Dordtse Leerreëls, een van ons belydenisskrifte, se verwondering oor God se werk in mense hoor jy duidelik in hul formuleringe: “Hy dring . . . in tot die binneste dele van die mens met die kragtige werking van die wederbarende Gees; Hy open die hart wat gesluit is; Hy vermurwe wat hard is; Hy maak dat die wil wat dood was, lewe; wat boos was, goed word; wat nie wou nie, nou inderdaad wil; wat weerspannig was, gehoorsaam word”. Paulus verwoord dit so mooi in 2 Kor 5:17 - Elkeen wat aan Christus behoort, is ’n splinternuwe mens; ’n nuwe skepping in die kleine.

Op Sondag, 18 Julie, begin ons met ‘n nuwe reeks tydens al die eredienste: Laat God jou verander . . . wil jy? Ons gaan met die reeks die Bybelboek, Romeine, as ons basisteks gebruik. Die brief aan die mense in Rome laat ‘n mens in verwondering staan oor God wat mense verander, soveel so, dat mense op grond van Sy groot ontferming, hulself kom gee as lewende en heilige offers vir die Here Rom 12:1. God se hand wat na my uitgesteek word, doen iets aan my – ek wil diensbaar raak vir God. Anders gestel: Die genade van God is wel onverdiend, maar dit is nie gratis nie: Die oproep van Christus: Volg MY, eis gehoorsaamheid! Om maar net vergiffenis van sonde sondermeer te verkondig, is om God se gade goedkoop te maak. Nee God se genade maak ons nuut: Dit laat ons anders leef: dit beïnvloed ons denke; dit laat ons diensbaar wees in God se koninkryk met die gawes wa Hy aan elkeen van ons gegee het; dit laat ons met ander oë na mekaar en ander mense kyk; dit laat my word wat God sê dat ek is!

Die teks en temas vir dié tyd is:
18 Jul - ‘n Kragtige verandering - Rom 1:1-17
25 Jul - Waarom verander? - Rom 3:21-31
1 Aug - Vrug van verandering - Rom 5:1-11
8 Aug - Dood vir die sonde, maar lewend vir God - Rom 6:1-14
15 Aug - Mense met sonde - Rom 7:1-25
22 Aug - ‘n Ander lewe deur die Gees - Rom 8:1-7
29 Aug - Niks kan my skei van die liefde van Christus - Rom 8:31-39
5 Sept - Verander vir ander - Rom 10:5-17
12 Sept - Laat God julle verander - Rom 12:1-8)
19 Sept - God se liefde verander ons menswees - Rom 12:9-21
26 Sept - Maak die sirkel groter - Rom 14:1-23
3 Okt - Die evangelie is vir alle mense - Rom 15:1-13

Terwyl ons met die reeks oor verandering besig is, gaan die kerkgebou ook deur ‘n veranderingsproses sodat ons kinders beter bedien kan word; ons voor en na eredienste lekker kan saamkuier; en ‘n meer geskikte plek vir ons meditaiewe eredienste, klein begrafnisse en huweliksbevestigings kan hê.

Laat God ons verander . . . wil jy? Ek wil graag deur God verander word!

Jul 4, 2010

Jesus Manifesto: Leonard Sweet & Frank Viola

First published on http://paul-barnard.blogspot.com/2010/06/jesus-manifesto-leonard-sweet-frank.html

This is one of the best books I have read in my life. Not because of all the new insights but because of the central truth. This is much more than a book but an outpouring of love for Jesus.
The truth is, I agree with perhaps 90% of the book–especially the central thrust–that Jesus Christ is a living and active presence here and now–and that we, by extension, are called to manifest Jesus' presence into the world. This idea might seem like a "no duh" to many Christians. However, as the authors point out, "the reality and experience of an indwelling Lord has been almost lost to the Christian faith."
Jesus Manifesto serves as a helpful reminder that Jesus isn't some long-dead sage who showed us a new way to live. Nor is he a theologically abstract principle or idea. One needn't look too long to see that most of Christianity assumes a sort of deadness to Christianity–that it is a religion of principles laid out by someone who is no longer present. This has certainly been my own experience of Christianity, for the most part.
Rather, Jesus dwells in us and, therefore, the important question isn't "What would Jesus do?" but "What is Christ doing through me…through us? And how is He doing it?"

There are huge implications to such a shift in our thinking. If being the embodiment to Christ to the world is much more than simply living out good principles, then all bets are off. Our faith becomes a terrifyingly beautiful journey with Christ in the world.
Since Christ's abiding presence in his Church is central to our life together, Frank and Len set out to challenge those things that set themselves as the engine for our faith…like conservative morality, church growth, miracles, movement-building, social justice, evangelism, leadership principles, prosperity, spiritual warfare, systematic theology, etc.

Christians have made the gospel about so many things—things other than Christ. Religious concepts, ideas, doctrines, strategies, methods, techniques, programs, and formulas have all eclipsed the beauty, the glory, and the reality of the Lord Jesus Himself. On the whole, the Christian family today is starved for a real experience of the living Christ. We know a lot about our Lord, but we don't know Him very well. We know a lot about trying to be like Jesus, but very little about living by His indwelling life. "Jesus Manifesto" presents a fresh unveiling of Jesus as not only Savior and Lord, but as so much more. It is a prophetic call to restore the supremacy and sovereignty of Christ in a world—and a church—that has lost sight of Him. Read this book and see your Lord like you've never seen Him before.
ABOUT THE AUTHORS
LEONARD SWEET occupies the Chair of Evangelism at Drew University in NJ and weekly contributes to sermons.com and a podcast, "Napkin Scribbles." He is a Distinguished Visiting Professor at George Fox University and has authored numerous articles, sermons, and forty books.
Len's Website: www.LeonardSweet.com
Len's Twitter: http://twitter.com/lensweet
FRANK VIOLA is a best-selling author, international conference speaker, and church planter. His books include Reimagining Church,The Untold Story of the New Testament Church,Pagan Christianity (with George Barna), Finding Organic Church, and the best-selling From Eternity to Here.
Frank's Website: www.FrankViola.com
Frank's Blog: www.frankviola.wordpress.com

Church without an Edge!

By Paul Barnard as first published on http://paul-barnard.blogspot.com/2010/06/church-without-edge.html

Last night I couldn’t sleep. I sat up past the early morning hours I usually hit the sack. In my time with God I was extremely aware of the fact that we have become a ‘safe’ church. Safe not in a good sense, but in the sense that we are working on our structures every possible moment. We want to make sure we have everything under control! 
Al we talk about is structures, busy defining ourselves en redefining. The question is not what would Jesus do, rather the question is: What is Jesus doing? How much time would Jesus spend building Church structures, making sure everything is documented, clinical correct.

When I look around me I see Jesus reaching out with love to those who do not deserve it. The program driven church of the West evaluate success by the number of people involved in their programs or the overall experience of people in the congregation. We have highly successful churches according to ourselves, but alas there are so few people coming in from the outside making a decision to follow Christ. We look to leaders who are modelling Christ to us. A Christ sitting in meetings and programs, teaching the same people different fads over years and yet each time, proclaiming how wonderful it is.
For us to be Church with a Edge we need to be outside in the world and to model a Christ living grace and mercy. If we want to train people in the congregations to follow Christ we have to be living examples in the community we live in. This is not a program but a living example of a life of love. This can only be done if we are willing to bow our knees before the living God and realise that it is not our Church, but the body of the living God. We made the Church a wonderful organisation, neat, tidy and a place where we are always in control. With all our rules and dogma we are making it difficult for those on the inside and the truth is that those on the outside doesn’t even stand a chance. We could never be in control of the body of Christ, Christ alone is in control.
If we look at the early church we see a dynamic community, who prayed together, read the word of God together, ate together and then made a difference where they went. We want to make Church(congregation) much more than it need to be. We are so busy keeping people so occupied with al the ‘Church’ work, meetings and programs that the real Church does not have time to make a difference there where Jesus is at work in the world.
Church with an Edge is a Church who realise that they are nothing if they are not with Christ Jesus the Lord.
What would happen if all the leaders we have in the church commit themselves to be in the world every day making a small difference where there is a opportunity while proclaiming the gospel of Jesus Christ? We would see people coming to the Lord, needs being med and people in congregation inspired to go out and do the same. Who would miss all the meetings and programs when the world comes to Christ? We must lead people to Christ and give them a loving community where they are loved rather than a lot of programs, courses and dogma.
To be Church with an Edge I believe that we must realise that the power base we claim for ourselves are false. That the importance of our plans and programs are a illusion and that we must start to by a basic community of Christ again.
Lots of Love, few rules and Adoring Christ.

The more you judge the less you love.

By Paul Barnard as first published on http://paul-barnard.blogspot.com/2010/06/more-you-judge-less-you-love.html

In the church today we talk far to much about what is right and what is wrong and not nearly enough about love, grace and mercy. We must be careful of what we say about others, especially is we take the moral high ground. Christianity does not allow moral high ground it urges us to confess our sins! Don’t live the lie. When we hide our sins we tend to point to other people’s weak points and declare Sinners.
In Galatians 6 we read:

Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. 2 Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. 3 If anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself. 4 Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself, without comparing himself to somebody else, 5 for each one should carry his own load. 6 Anyone who receives instruction in the word must share all good things with his instructor. 7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.

We are only there to help restore the fallen brother and then gently! The major part of the teaching urges us to look at our own lives. To test our own actions WITHOUT comparing it to others. Is does not depend on how others treat me. My actions are born out of my relationship with Jesus Christ and is not a mere reaction.
When I live a life where I am pointing fingers to others even if they were pointing fingers to me first then I am missing the point. I can not judge other people I can only look at my own life. To live a life where you judge others while you are taking the moral high ground is to mock Christ Jesus according to this scripture.  When we live the lie we try to smear the character of those who point to our sins. We try to get people on our side by telling stories behind their backs.
We need confess our sins, we need to confess our weakness and we need to embrace the other sinners. We need to bring grace to those who judge us and mercy to those who confess their sins. But most of all we need to rejoice in the forgiveness of Jesus Christ.

Mar 10, 2010

What it means to have a mother.

Calvin and Hobbes

Someone responded to this cartoon “And his Mother would probably do it” But actually the right answer is much more likely to be: “And his Mother would do it happily and she would look forward to each trip”.

In a sense Mothers are NUTS. They are willing to give all they have to see their children happy. They are willing to sacrifice themselves, go the extra mile, maybe twenty if necessary?

I wonder if it would not have been easier if God introduced Himself as the Heavenly Mother. Would it not be much easier to understand the grace and love of God if it was associated with a Mother? I know that when we talk about the gender of God that God made Man and Woman in His images. That our understanding of God is sometimes flawed because we see God predominantly as male, God is so much more!

The second thing that struck me in this cartoon was how Calvin assumed the role of his mother was to make life easier for him. Do all his dirty work and be contended with this. Where in your life would you find somebody NUTS enough to be willing to make these sacrifices for self righteous and unthankful people? I can only think of Mothers and God.

Thank God for Mothers.

Mar 8, 2010

How Facebook Killed the Church

Thanks to Guillaume Smit en Leonard Sweet for bringing this article to my attension.

Guillaume wrote the following on his blog(THEOLOGY, MISSION & MINISTRY: HOW FACEBOOK KILLED THE CHURCH):

I found this article thanks to a tweet from Leonard Sweet with the link. It is written by Richard Beck, Associate Professor and experimental psychologist at Abilene Christian University.He blogs at Experimental Theology. You can read the original post HERE.

There has been a great deal of hand wringing in the Christian community about the onset of Web 2.0 relationality (e.g., Facebook, Twitter, blogs, MMOGs). The concern you often hear is that "virtual" relationships are no replacement for "authentic" relationships.
No doubt this is true. But I've done some research in this area and here's my general conclusion: Facebook friends tend to be our actual friends.
No doubt, the vast majority of the people in a friend list on Facebook are strangers, acquaintances, or old school friends you haven't seen in years. But no user of Facebook is confused enough to think that she is "in relationship" with any of these people. These are just the penumbra around the core of our Facebook interactions, connecting with people we actually know and are friends with.

In short, Facebook isn't replacing real world relationality. Rather, Facebook tends to reflect our social world. For example, in a soon to be published study some ACU colleagues and I used Facebook to predict student retention at our school (i.e., which freshmen return for their sophomore year). We found that on-campus Facebook activity was significantly correlated with measures of "real world" relationality. Further, on-campus Facebook activity also predicted who would come back for their sophomore year. For example, if you had a lot of Facebook Wall Posts you felt more socially connected and were more likely to come back to ACU for a second year. Which makes sense. Who would be posting on your Wall day to day? Sure, old friends might give you a shout out from time to time on your Wall. But for the most part Wall posts come from people who you'll actually see today. Or at least this week, month or year. The point is, you know these people. Talking with them via Facebook is authentic relationality. It's staying in touch, coordinating plans, offering up encouragement, saying a prayer, working out misunderstandings, and sharing a moment.


Over at my friend Mike's blog there was a recent discussionabout why Millennials (also known as Generation Y) are leaving the church. His question was, why are they leaving? Most of the answers took aim at the church. Churches are too shallow, hypocritical, judgmental, or political. Many surveys have shown these attitudes to be widespread among Millennials. Consider the Barna research summarized in the book unChristian. Young Christians and non-Christians tend to feel that the church is "unChristian." Too antihomosexual. Too hypocritical. Too political. Too judgmental. That's how young people see "the church." And it's hard to blame them.
But my argument at Mike's blog was that the church has always been this way. Is the church of 2010 much different from the church of the '50s, '60s, '70s, '80s, or '90s? I don't think so. So, yes, the church is screwed up. Always has been. The church has been a depressing constant over the generations. So the change isn't with the church. The change is with the Millennials. If so, in what way and how has this change related to the church?
The most obvious change is in mobile and Web 2.0 connectivity. Generation X didn't have cell phones. Nor did they have Facebook or text messaging. And you can't tell me that Millennials see the church any differently than Generation X saw it. Look to the right at cell phone subscriptions plotted by decade. Most have Generation X as birth dates between 1961 to 1981. Which has Gen X as college students in the years 1979 to 1999. As you can see, most Gen X'ers didn't have cellphones. And based on the sociological evidence Gen X was much more cynical and anti-establishment when compared to the Millennials. So you can't tell me Gen X'ers didn't see the church as judgmental, hypocritical, or sold-out. They did.
So what happened? Why didn't Gen X leave the church while the Millennials are leaving in droves?
The difference between Generations X and Y isn't in their views of the church. It's about those cellphones. It's about relationships and connectivity. Most Gen X'ers didn't have cell phones, text messaging or Facebook. These things were creeping in during their college years but the explosive onset of mobile devices and social computing had yet to truly take off.
So why has mobile social computing affected church attendance? Well, if church has always been kind of lame and irritating why did people go in the first place? Easy, social relationships. Church has always been about social affiliation. You met your friends, discussed your week, talked football, shared information about good schools, talked local politics, got the scoop, and made social plans ("Let's get together for dinner this week!"). Even if you hated church you could feel lonely without it. Particularly with the loss of "third places" in America.
But Millennials are in a different social situation. They don't need physical locations for social affiliation. They can make dinner plans via text, cell phone call or Facebook. In short, the thing that kept young people going to church, despite their irritations, has been effectively replaced. You don't need to go to church to stay connected or in touch. You have an iPhone.
Sure, Millennials will report that the "reason" they are leaving the church is due to its perceived hypocrisy or shallowness. My argument is that while this might be the proximate cause the more distal cause is social computing. Already connected Millennials have the luxury to kick the church to the curb. This is the position of strength that other generations did not have. We fussed about the church but, at the end of the day, you went to stay connected. For us, church was Facebook!
The pushback here will be that all this Millennial social computing, all this Facebooking, isn't real, authentic relationship. I'd disagree with that assessment. It goes to the point I made earlier: Most of our Facebook interactions are with people we know, love, and are in daily contact with. Facebook isn't replacing "real" relationships with "virtual" relationships. It's simply connecting us to our real friends. And if you can do this without getting up early on Sunday morning why go to church? Particularly if the church is hypocritical and shallow? Why mess with it?
Why are Millennials leaving the church? It's simple. Mobile social computing has replaced the main draw of the traditional church: Social connection and affiliation.
Basically, Facebook killed the church. May it Rest in Peace.

Mar 7, 2010

Wie wil jy wees?

Ek het die voorreg om met baie gesinne te werk. By te wees as ouers met en oor hulle kinders praat. Om dan self met hierdie jongmense te gesels en te hoor hoe hulle oor hulle self dink. Een van die dinge wat my bly opval is mense se drome vir hulle kinders en hoe kinders eners begin droom.

Ons wil almal die beste vir ons kinders hê. Ons droom dat hulle eendag gelukkig sal wees, ‘n goeie werk sal hê, gelukkig getroud sal wees(met iemand van die ANDER geslag). Dat hulle SUKSESVOL sal wees.

As ons saam met ons kinders huiswerk doen is dit wat ons vir hulle herbevestig. “Jy moet jou huiswerk doen anders gaan jy nie eendag Universiteit toe kan gaan nie en gaan jy nie ‘n goeie werk kan kry nie.”

Ons bevestig dit as hulle aan sport deelneem. “KILLER INSTINCT! Geen genade!” Ons bevestig dit na hulle prestasies ontvang het. “Ek kan dit nie glo nie, dit is onregverdig. Jy moes die eerste plek gekry het! Toemaar volgende keer!” So kan ons aangaan met voorbeelde.

Wat ons eintlik kommunikeer is: Dit is belangrik watter prestasies en verwagtinge jy kry en aan voldoen in die lewe. Wie moet jy word? Die persoon wat al hierdie goed doen en dit dan GOED doen! Daarom sit ons met soveel mense wat leeg is, alhoewel hulle gereken word in die top 10% van die Wêreld bevolking. Dit waarna hulle streef is leeg.

Wat wil ek hê moet my seuns word?

  • Manne wat genade uitleef
  • Manne wat respek het vir hulle self, ander en die natuur
  • Manne wat ander mense en hulle behoeftes raaksien
  • Manne wat eerlik is
  • Manne wat nederig is
  • Manne wat lewe met vreugde en passie
  • Manne wat hulle gawes geniet
  • Manne wat vir GOD lief is!

Hierdie lys gaan nie oor iets wat hulle moet word eendag nie. Dit gaan nie oor prestasies wat hulle eendag moet bereik nie. Dit gaan oor wie hulle IS en gaan WEES. Te lank in my lewe het ek onder die wan indruk geleef dat dinge wat ek doen en bereik maak dat ek belangriker is en meer aanvaarbaar is vir God. Tog kom ek agter dit gaan vir God oor wie ek IS. God wat met my wil tyd spandeer. God wat dink dat ek spesiaal is. Jes 43:4 “Omdat jy vir My kostelik is, omdat Ek jou hoog ag en liefhet...”

Hoe verander ek dan die manier hoe ek met my kinders omgaan. Die taal wat ek gebruik as ek met hulle praat. Hoe gereeld bevestig ek dit aan hulle dat ek hulle onvoorwaardelik liefhet. Hoe gereeld doen ek simpel dinge saam met hulle net omdat.

Ek gaan vir die volgende maand probeer om al die energie wat ek gewoonlik gebruik om seker te maak dat hulle uitdraai soos die samelewing verwag te herkanaliseer. Ek gaan probeer om te fokus op die belangrike dinge, om hulle lief te hê, om die waardes wat vir God belangrik is te demonstreer. Ek gaan ook probeer om dit nie te oen in die vorm van morele lessies wat maar net weer gemik is daarop om hulle iewers iets te laat bereik nie. Ek gaan probeer om hulle al hoe meer te leer om ook te leef in die hier en nou voor God. Om nou reeds genoeg te wees. Nee daar gaan ek alweer. Om nou reeds te besef dat hulle goed genoeg IS.

Ek gaan met hulle praat oor dit wat God ons maak. Dit is egter moeilik want dit is nie soos ek grootgeword het nie. My grootste droom was nie om elke dag te leef met: liefde, vreugde, vrede, geduld, vriendelikheid, goedhartigheid, getrouheid, 23nederigheid en selfbeheersing.[1] Ek hoop as ek dit genoeg vir my kinders vertel dat dit my droom vir hulle is, en iets hiervan probeer leef dat dit ook die droom van hulle lewens sal word.


[1]Die Bybel : Nuwe Vertaling. 1998, c1983 (Ga 5:22). Cape Town, South Africa: Bybelgenootskap van Suid-Afrika.

Mar 4, 2010

Om Missionaal Kerk te wees - Eenvoudig




Hierdie is ‘n baie eenvoudige manier om te verduidelik wat dit beteken om Misionaal kerk te wees.
Eight patterns of missional faithfulness, I cannot remember where I got this,  maybe you know, I would love to know.
Pattern 1, Missional Vocation. The congregation is discovering together the missional vocation of the community. It is beginning to redefine “success” and “vitality” in terms of faithfulness to God’s calling and sending. It is seeking to discern God’s specific missional vocation (“charisms” – gifts) for the entire community and for all of its members.
Pattern 2, Biblical Formation and Discipleship. The missional church is a community in which all members are involved in learning what it means to be disciples of Jesus. The bible is normative in this church’s life. Biblical formation and discipling are essential for the congregation.
Pattern 3, Taking Risks as a Contrast Community. The missional church is learning to take risks for the sake of the gospel. It understands itself as different from the world because of its participation in the life, death and resurrection of its Lord. It is raising questions, often threatening ones, about the church’s cultural captivity, and it is grappling with the ethical and structural implications of its missional vocation. It is learning to deal with internal and external resistance.
Pattern 4, Practices That Demonstrate God’s Intent for the World. The pattern of the church’s life as community is a demonstration of what God intends for the life of the whole world. The practices of the church embody mutual care, reconciliation, loving accountability, and hospitality. A missional church is indicated by how Christians behave toward one another.
Pattern 5, Worship as Public Witness. Worship is the central act by which the community celebrates with joy and thanksgiving both God’s presence and God’s promised future. Flowing out of its worship, the community has a vital public witness.
Pattern 6, Dependence on the Holy Spirit. The missional community confesses its dependence upon the Holy Spirit, shown in particular in its practices of corporate prayer.
Pattern 7, Pointing Toward the Reign of God. The missional church understands its calling as witness to the gospel of the in-breaking reign of God, and strives to be an instrument, agent, and sign of that reign. As it makes its witness through its identity, activity, and communication, it is keenly aware of the provisional character of all that it is and does. It points towards the reign of God that God will certainly bring about, but knows that its own response is incomplete, and that its own conversion is a continuing necessity.
Pattern 8, Missional Authority. The Holy Spirit gives the missional church a community a community of persons who, in a variety of ways and with a diversity of functional roles and titles, together practice the missional authority that cultivates within the community the discernment of missional vocation and is intentional about the practices that embed that vocation in the community’s life. Source: “Treasure in Clay Jars – Patterns in Missional Faithfulness” from the Gospel and Our Culture Network (Eerdmans, 2004):

What would Jesus Do if Invited to a Gay Wedding? – John Shore

Omdat ons so besig is met Sonde is dit die ding waarop ons altyd eerste fokus. Dit is die manier hoe ons grootgemaak is. Daarom is ons eerste gedagte dat ons die Sonde moet aanspreek. As ons in die eerste plek so besig was met God se liefde, sou ons eerste gedagte sekerlik gewees het om God se liefde te verkondig. Hierdie artikel het my persoonlik weer laat dink

I've recently been invited to a couple of gay weddings. So -- what with being Christian and all -- I asked myself the famous question, "What would Jesus do?" (Which I don't too often ask myself, actually, since Jesus could, for instance, raise people from the dead and turn water into wine, whereas I can barely drag myself out of bed in the morning and/or turn water into coffee. Safe to say lots of His options are none of mine.)

Wondering what Jesus would do naturally enough led me to the New Testament. And therein I found these quotes:

"Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices -- mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law -- justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former. You blind guides! You strain out a gnat but swallow a camel." (Matthew 23:23-24); and

"Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You shut the kingdom of heaven in men's faces. You yourselves do not enter, nor will you let those enter who are trying to." (Matthew 23:13); and,

"Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when he becomes one, you make him twice as much a son of hell as you are." (Matthew 23:15); and, last but hardly least:

"Love your neighbor as yourself," [said Jesus]. "There is no commandment greater than these." (Mark 12:31)

When I next went looking for anywhere in the Bible where Jesus says anything -- and I mean anything -- about homosexuality, I learned that Jesus spent about as much time talking about gays and/or lesbians as I spend talking about button collecting and/or sea horses: none. Of course, it's entirely possible that Jesus did say crucial things about homosexuality, but that when he did (curse the luck!) no one around him just then happened to have handy an ostrich feather, sappy stick, or whatever it was they used for pens back then. Which would make sense, actually. If you've spent any time at all reading the New Testament, you know that Jesus' disciples weren't exactly Johnnies-on-the-spot. They were just normal, everyday guys.

Kind of the whole point! Jesus most surely did love him some everyday people.

Throughout the New Testament, the only kind of people with whom Jesus consistently took frightful exception were the very "teachers of the law and Pharisees" we see him dressing down in the passages above. One thing that often gets lost in our considerations of Jesus is the degree to which he is exactly the wrong person to piss off. And you don't have to spend a lot of time in the New Testament before you understand that the only kind of people who seem to ever truly anger him are those who put religious dogma above what he most stood for, which was God's compassionate will.

Around Jesus you can whine, lie, shift your loyalties, be late, be greedy, be too ambitious, be stupid, be a coward, be a hypochondriac, constantly complain, fall asleep at every wrong moment -- you can do nothing right, and it won't in the slightest way seem to offend him. But you put dogma ahead of empathy? You transmogrify God's law into a justification for denying God's grace?

Then ... yikes, man. Then you've got yourself a problem no one wants.

 

I'm not exactly sure how we came to so often consider Jesus-formerly-known-as-The-Carpenter as a kind of a soft, dreamy, namby-pamby sort. (Not that there's anything wrong with that!) But it's hard to believe it was from the accounts of Jesus we have in the Gospels. That's just not the guy on those pages.

Jesus is scary when he's riled. And the only people who rile him are those who, in His name,set themselves up as sanctimonious judgers of others.

I think I better go to the weddings of my gay friends. I'm almost scared not to. In some of his parables Jesus wasn't exactly fortune-cookie clear, but he didn't even almost waffle about his "Love your neighbor as yourself." He very explicitly declared that the "first and greatest commandment."

If there's any wiggle room there, I just don't see it.

So I'll attend my gay friends' weddings, and I'll do so in the exact same spirit I'd expect them to
attend a similar function of mine. And if it happens that in the course of either of their weddings or receptions I find myself wondering if I'm doing the right thing, I'll be sure to remember the first miracle of Jesus' recorded in the Bible. It's when he turned water into wine. At a wedding.

Feb 6, 2010

MMC 2010

wild_hogs copy Hallo julle,

Ons is opgewonde om te se dat ons vanaand ons eerste beplannings vergadering gehad het vir MMC2010 (http://www.mmc2010.com/) Op hierdie stadium is daar ten minste twee opsies met ’n moontlike derde.

  1. Manne met bikes: Ons vetrek Woensdag 14 April die oggend vroeg by die kerk met die motorfietse en die eerste dag gaan ons ongeveer 680km ry na Graaff-Reinet. Daar gaan ons heel moontlik oorslaap in ’n nasionale park se kampterrein. Ons is nog oop vir oortuiging om die eerste aand in ander fassiliteite oor te slaap. Maar ons gaan lekker kuier. Don 15 April vetrek ons vroeg oggend na Goldengate Nasionale park ongeveer 600 km. Hier gaan ons lekker kuier en sluit die ouens van die klein bussies by ons aan. Vrydag 15 April gaan ons vroeg oggend vetrek na die MMC terrein. Dit beteken dat ons op die laatste ongeveer 12:00 daar gaan aankom wat sal maak dat ons die groot verkeer gaan mis en rustig kan kuier tot die program begin. Ons gaan die naweek genoeg tyd saam kuier, saam beleef en lekker saam ontspan terwyl ons nader groei aan God. Sondag as die program eindig ry ons weer die korter afstand na Golden Gate waar ons almal oorslaap. Dan gaan ons saam kuier en kans kry om te dink oor alles wat die naweek gebeur het. Maandag oggend vetrek die bikers na die volgende oorslaap plek ongeveer 600km van daar. Ons slaap maandag aand oor en Dinsdag oggend ry ons die laaste ent terug huis toe. Bikers het dus nodig om Woensdag, Don, Vrydag, Maandag en Dinsdag verlof te neem.
  2. Vir die manne sonder bikes is daar die opsie van die klein bussie/bussies. Die bussie/s vetrek Don 14 April in die aand vanaf die kerk en ry reguit deur tot by Golden Gate waar hulle met die bikers saam kom. Vrydag 15 April gaan ons vroeg oggend vetrek na die MMC terrein. Dit beteken dat ons op die laatste ongeveer 12:00 daar gaan aankom wat sal maak dat ons die groot verkeer gaan mis en rustig kan kuier tot die program begin. Ons gaan die naweek genoeg tyd saam kuier, saam beleef en lekker saam ontspan terwyl ons nader groei aan God. Sondag as die program eindig ry ons weer die korter afstand na Golden Gate waar ons almal oorslaap. Dan gaan ons saam kuier en kans kry om te dink oor alles wat die naweek gebeur het. Maandag oggend vetrek die Bussie/s en ry tot by die huis. Klein Bussie ouens moet dus Don, Vrydag en Maandag verlof neem.
  3. Die volgende opsie is om saam met groter bus te ry. Vetrek Don Aand en ry regdeur tot Vrydag aand. Sluit aan by die res. Sondag na die tyd reg hulle regdeur tot by huis. Dit gaan BAIE uitputtend wees.

Kostes vir die kampterrein is R150 per persoon vir die naweek. Ons sal binnekort die pryse vir bussies uitwerk en oorslaap.  Kos is op die kampterrein beskikbaar. Bikers sal eie petrol voorsien en is verantwoordelik vir oorslaap kostes.

Ons sal julle op hoogte hou van sake soos die pryse en die inligting duideliker word.

Indien jy belangstel/oorweeg om saam te gaan stuur e-pos vir my sodat ons jou naam op die moontlike lys kan sit.  Gerrie van Niekerk gaan vir ons verantwoordelikheid neem vir die bus/sie/sies. Terwyl Leonard Oosthuisen en Neel Britz verantwoordelikheid gaan neem vir die Bike groep.

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Tying the Clouds Together Rob Bell's metaphors and references make his listeners stretch, but his wisdom for preachers is down to earth. A Leadership interview with Rob Bell | posted 2/01/2010

He once planted a church by teaching through Leviticus. He can use a rabbit carved from a bar of soap to illustrate the nature of suffering. Google his name and the term "Sex God" will appear among the top entries.

Rob Bell is the most interesting preacher in the world.

Bell is the founding pastor of Mars Hill Bible Church in Grand Rapids, Michigan, but his reputation as an innovative communicator came largely through his video teaching series, NOOMA. Since launching Mars Hill in 1999, Bell's ministry has expanded into books, DVDs, and live tours, but he is still committed to shepherding his community at Mars Hill through preaching.

Leadership managing editor Skye Jethani sat down with Bell to discuss his approach to communicating, the state of preaching in the church, and the risks the pulpit presents to a pastor's soul.

Your sermons are known for pulling from unexpected sources—everything from art history to quantum physics. Why?

When Jacob woke up after his vision of angels ascending and descending on the ladder, he declared, "Surely God was in this place and I did not know it." And Jesus says, "My Father is always at work even to this very day." Jesus lives with an awareness, an assumption that God is here and he's at work. Dallas Willard calls this "the God-bathed world." This has deeply shaped me.

My assumption is that God can be found in all of the interesting things buzzing around us all the time. So we can take something from here and something from there and bring them together. A friend of mine calls it "tying the clouds together."

What's an example?

In high-end quantum physics they believe matter isn't stable. The atoms in a chair are connected in a pattern of relationships. And the Bible begins with a triune God—a relationship of loving, giving, creative energy. Ah ha, there's something there.

Drops Like Stars began when I realized that basic art theory has all of these connections with suffering. And so it generally starts with some odd moment of connection. And then from there it's just the hard work of hunting things down, digging things up, becoming aware of all that's going on around us all the time. I have journals filled with fragments, and over time they grow.

How is that different from how you were originally trained to preach?

A lot of pastors were trained to read the verse and then read the commentaries. But after a while the two are just talking to each other. One's focus can actually become smaller and smaller until everything is funneled into the particular text. The movement then becomes in rather than out. So it's Tuesday afternoon and a pastor is sitting in the office reading James 2 and four or five commentaries hoping to find that little nugget. When all the while there's a huge world of insight and implication and ideas out there.

Rather than shrinking our vision, the text should become a pair of eyes with which we are able to see even more. There's a great big world out there with quantum physics, and architecture, and economic theory, and the thread count of clothing, and the fact that refrigerators in Europe are smaller—all of these seemingly random events and occurrences and happenings are all connected and help us see how this really is God's world.

That covers content, but what about the sermon structure?

There's a whole world of screenwriting wisdom that we can tap into as preachers. There are storytelling insights about arc, tension, narrative, perspective, point of view—these things aren't taught in most seminaries, but they're essential to understanding how stories work, which means they're incredibly helpful in understanding the Bible.

Imagine a pastor on Thursday staring at this obscure passage in the life of David trying to figure out where the sermon is. One playwright says, "When in doubt, just have a different character give the line." And suddenly it clicks—do the sermon from the perspective of Uriah. Boom! Just one little adjustment and all of a sudden the whole thing works. My experience has been that the modern preaching, teaching, training system doesn't tap people into all this. The imagination involved in the art of the sermon can end up being stifled.

There's a lot of emphasis today on practical preaching, helping people address their felt-needs, and giving direct application. Is that foremost in your mind when you prepare a message?

When I prepare to teach a text there are a few questions I always ask. First, "What's the thing behind the thing?" and "What's the truth behind the truth?" So if we're talking about tithing, we're really talking about generosity and participation. And if we're talking about generosity and participation, then we're really talking about whether you view the world as a scarcity or as a world governed by a Trinitarian God. Is the universe at its core a sliced-up pie where you grab your slice and then protect and defend it? Or do you believe that at the core there is an endlessly self-giving, loving community of God we are invited to step into?

So you can talk about tithing—giving your 10 percent. Or you can wrestle with a scarcity versus a Trinitarian view of the universe with tithing perhaps being an implication at the end of the message.

So you're trying to help people see a larger view of reality, through the lens of the gospel, rather than just giving them practical application.

Yes, exactly. I call it the truth behind the truth; the mystery behind the mystery; reality behind the reality. If you say we're going to do a series on marriage for the next five weeks, there's a chance that people who's aren't married, who are single, or who are divorced are going to think, Well, I guess I don't have to show up for five weeks.

Another way to approach the subject is to see marriage as one of the applications of the truth behind the truth. The truth behind the truth would lead you to preach one week on being honest, the next on apologizing, and the next on serving others. Those truths apply to everyone. And then each week you might include a point on how it applies to marriage.

Does our inability to find the truth behind the truth explain why we ignore large sections of the Bible in our preaching? We just don't see much practical how-to in Obadiah?

It's interesting you bring this up because when our church started, I spent the first year and a half preaching through Leviticus verse by verse. But now it's a part of our church's DNA to assume that every text has something for us—even ones that make no sense the first time you read them.

"I always assume that there is way more going on in the text than we see on the first reading."—Rob Bell

It may be my own warped sense of humor, but it was always the odd places in the Bible that I found most compelling. It's God's inspired Word, and it's all useful. But to really believe that—that's when things get interesting. I'd rather trust God, jump into those texts, and discover what God has for us.

I really like the idea of throwing yourself at its mercy. I'm just assuming there will be things here. Last year we did Philippians verse by verse. It took the whole year. I always begin with the assumption that there is way more going on in the text than we see on the first reading.

With more familiar texts, like Philippians, you have a different challenge. How do you bring forward new insights without deteriorating into novelty?

We use phrases like "historic orthodox Christian faith" a lot, and we ask how Christians before us have understood the text. What did the church fathers say about this? For example, we did Lamentations for Lent. For thousands of years Christians have taken the season leading up to Resurrection Sunday for reflection.

We frame many things like that. Here are ways people have thought about this, understood this, expressed this over the years.

So you're not just trying to be different or innovative, you're trying to be rooted?

Right. We're interested in the way of Jesus and being true to the way of Jesus. If what we dig up is rattling or provocative or surprising, great, but setting out to be shocking or controversial, that's not a goal God honors.

What else have you found unhelpful when preaching?

Focusing too much on something in the text that is an issue of hairsplitting debate among theologians. You are assuming that people care as much about the debate as you do. Somebody may be sitting there thinking, "Dude, I'm a plumber. I didn't know that was a debate, and I didn't know that it needed to be resolved. I'm just trying to figure out life with God and you spent sixteen minutes letting me know that you understood the origins of this particular Greek word." Some things just aren't helpful.

Why do we get sucked into those unhelpful debates?

In some sense we are justifying our existence. We want to appear smart and authoritative. We want to display what we know and prove that we deserve to be up here on the stage rather than humbly receiving the role as a gift.

I have definitely been guilty of trying to show people how much I know about a verse, and that's different than allowing them to see how the truth of it has impacted my life and can transform theirs. When we put language on our experience with a text, then it becomes life-giving preaching.

So for legitimacy as leaders we rely on our intelligence rather than our intimacy with Christ.

"Church is actually about caring for one another, speaking the truth with one another in love."—Rob Bell

Right. It's about walking with God. As a pastor it is easy

to fall into a pattern of life that is isolating, and in a weird way "Church, Inc." becomes your sphere of life. Before you know it, as pastor you're out of touch with what other people are really struggling with.

How has your role at Mars Hill changed?

A few years ago I felt like I was on a treadmill and the dial just kept getting turned up faster and faster. Three services, elder meetings, staff meetings, weddings, traveling, writing. And then some very wise elders realized it wasn't healthy. They said, "Okay, here's the deal. You're a part of Mars Hill, and you'll always be a part of it. But we are going to arrange things so that it doesn't kill you and it doesn't kill us."

It's been a long, long process, but over the past year it's been working really well. There aren't any models for this kind of thing, so it took a lot of discussion, sweat, blood, and prayer. But it's working. I preach a little less than half the Sundays at our church, and then I write and tour and make films and the leaders of our church invite me in to issues and meetings only when it's proper and makes sense.

 

How has sitting in the seats and watching others teach regularly impacted you as a preacher? Has your perspective shifted?

I've realized how much of my energy and headspace in the past was used trying to get people to do things. I would get all worked up: Why can't we care more about the earth, the poor, the needy, literacy, people who are suicidal? But sitting and listening to other teachers has been such a gift. They've shown me new things. And I've realized how easy it is to make people feel guilty, to tell them they should do something. But through these other teachers, I wasn't being told what I was supposed to be doing. I was being invited to consider what might be true and then act out of that. It's been so freeing. A real gift.

Your NOOMA video series has been popular. What do you think about the increasing number of preachers and churches using video technology to expand their reach?

It's powerful but there's also a dark side. Video is not church. You put images and music on a screen, and people will listen. But it's also dangerous. You're playing with fire. I think video technology deserves to be scrutinized heavily.

Go a little deeper. What makes video dangerous?

I don't think we know yet what the long-term impact will be on disciple-making. In 10 years we may discover what particular kind of Christ follower is formed by video preaching. I see warning lights on my dashboard. It's unclear what video may do to the ways we conceive of life together.

In the New Testament, there are 43 "one another" passages, and during a Sunday morning service you might be able to practice three or four of them. And as the service gets large, you can probably do fewer. A massive group setting is also dangerous. You can come, sit, listen, and go home and think, I've been to church, even if you haven't practiced any "one anothers." And with video that only gets more intense. I'm not sure that's the direction we want to be heading.

We want to be calling people to deep bonds of solidarity with one another. We may gather in a massive group, but from the stage I often say, "This is just a church service. Church is actually about caring for one another, and serving one another, and speaking truth to one another in love. Don't get the two confused."

The evidence suggests that video can have a fast and broad impact. So what's the alternative?

There is something more powerful than simply beaming yourself into other locations, and that is raising up disciples. Over time that will go farther and faster, but right now it will be more work and slower. With technology today it's easy to spend all of your energies reproducing your own voice, but there is a longer view that says, what if instead of beaming video to those ten locations, we train ten people who can go there and lead? That's a very basic question that should be in the mix somewhere.

Is developing other leaders part of your calling now?

That's the reason we recently did "The Poets, Prophets, and Preachers" seminar, and it's why I've got seminary students I meet with regularly. Meeting with them also changes my thinking because they ask great questions. There's a reason Jesus sends his disciples out in pairs—everyone learns.

What do you teach these students about the spiritual side of preaching?

First, the public nature of preaching exposes you to a wide spectrum of feedback—from the really good compliments to really venomous criticism. Both can be dangerous because they lead to either pride or pain. We need to work at becoming the kind of person who is so deeply grounded in who we are, the work we are called to do, and the words we are called to speak, that the ambient hype that surrounds the preaching event doesn't get the best of us.

 

It's important to create a circle of trusting, loving people around you who will tell you the truth no matter what. They can help you think rightly about the criticism and keep you balanced. Preaching isn't just about the sermon, it's about becoming the kind of person who can actually handle the role. It's like a Ferrari. If you don't know how to drive the thing, you're going to crash into a tree.

Based on your metaphor, I imagine you've hit some bumps on the road.

Oh, for sure. Preaching will inevitably reveal all sorts of stuff residing in your soul. The stage is like a magnet, and any little shards of insecurity, pride, fear, or greed in you will eventually be pulled to the surface. So you have to go down a journey toward becoming a particular kind of person or it will consume you.

What does that journey involve?

If you're going to preach long term and do it with more hope, more joy, more passion, and more wisdom, then you've got to be willing to dig down into your own soul and psyche and history. How do you seek approval? What messages did your parents send you? What voices do you hear on your shoulders?

The other part is sustainability. That's an important word for me. Some pastors think about how to survive the next five years. The better question to ask is, how are we going to thrive? How do we construct a rhythm and pace of life that ensures five years from now we'll have more passion, more energy, and we will be filled with new and fresh ideas about life in God's world?

Go into any church office and ask the leaders, "Is this sustainable? Are you more passionate, more expectant, more rested and ready to go than you were a year ago, or is this thing gradually killing you?"

Just this week I asked a seminary student, "What day of the week do you not answer email? When do you take a Sabbath to remind yourself that you're not a machine, you're a human?" And he said, "I don't know if I can do that right now." I was like, "Well, if you can't do it now in seminary, what happens when you have real responsibility?"

How do you balance the church's expectations and what's actually sustainable?

There is a thick church culture that consumes pastors and spits them out. But the pastors also allow themselves to be consumed. So it goes both ways. Both sides need to reevaluate things. The first people a pastor must have this discussion with is his or her family. If you're married, start with a spouse. Then have this discussion with the church's leadership. Start with the people you report to, and assume that these people have "hired" you to give your very best. Explore together how your life can be set up in such a way that you can give your very best in these tasks.

One of my problems was that I didn't understand how to properly bring the leaders of our church into this exploration process. But as we learned how to do it, everything changed.

I don't know any elder in the church who wants the pastor to be burned out. No one wants crappy sermons. No one wants you dragging yourself to meetings with no ideas. So, that's where to start. Tell the leaders, "You have brought me here to serve you well. Let's figure out how I can give to my family first and then give my best to the church.